I’m not ashamed to say that I’m seriously single. To be totally honest, I’m cool with that most of the time. However, I am only human and I do want someone to tell me I’m cute and bring me ice cream when I have my period sometimes. I’ve been on my own for about a year now, which is what I want to send a message to all single guys out there: if you have a crush on me, tell me straight up. Believe me, you have a good chance!
- I’ve had guys play coy before. On more than one occasion, I’ve actually had guys admit to me months or even years after the fact that they had a crush on me previously but that they never said anything about it because they thought I wouldn’t be interested or that I must have already been in a relationship. On all of those occasions, neither was particularly true. I would have given them all a chance, but it’s always too little too late.
- My standards aren’t unreasonable. Because I’m a strong woman who won’t take any sh-t, I have standards and boundaries that I refuse to compromise on. However, they’re not unreasonable by any means. I want someone who respects me, shows me courtesy and consideration, and who puts in as much effort as I do. Beyond that, I’m open to getting to know all different kinds of guys, so if you have a crush on me, step on up!
- I don’t have the energy to play games. Just like I don’t play hard to get or expect men to chase me, I don’t want that dynamic in return either. I believe in direct communication, which means that if a guy has feelings for me or think he might like to go on a date with me, he should just say so. If I’m not interested, I’ll say that upfront too. However, given that I find it really attractive when a guy knows what he wants and goes for it, chances are I probably won’t say no to at least one date. If you have a crush on me, ask me out!
- I’m not a mind reader. Seriously, dude — if you’re harboring some intense crush on me, I’m not going to magically know that by engaging my psychic powers. I’m going to need you to show that so I can respond to it. Also, the “hints” you drop shouldn’t be too subtle. I don’t want to have to guess whether I’m reading into things too much or if you really like me.
- Guys aren’t falling at my feet on a daily basis. When guys have told me in the past that they assumed I must be in a relationship, I’m not sure if they legitimately meant that as a compliment or if they were just using that as a copout for their lack of effort in showing interest. Regardless, let me say here and now, guys: you don’t have any competition at the moment, so please do go for it.
- I’m not desperate, by the way. By imploring men to just tell me they like me straight-up, I don’t want to misrepresent things. While I want guys to be more upfront with their feelings, I’m also not really bothered if they don’t — more like annoyed. I’m really comfortable being single and I love my life, so if a guy has a crush on me and never says anything about it, that really is his loss. Your move, guys. Got a crush on me? Say it!