The most satisfying relationship you’re ever going to have is with a woman who knows who she is and loves herself. If you want to keep a woman like this long-term, there are some things you definitely shouldn’t do or you just might lose her:
- You get way too clingy. We have our own stuff going on and that’s not going to change when we start dating someone new, or even when we fall madly in love. Sure, we’re open to a great relationship, but not at the expense of our carefully crafted lives that we truly love. If you can’t stop texting us or you want to see us seven nights a week, that’s not going to go over too well.
- You hate emotions. We know you have feelings, but if you seem to have no idea what to do with them or can’t share them with us, we’ll be forced to walk away. If you can’t tell us how you feel about us or other stuff in your life, we’re not going to stick around for you to figure it out.
- You refuse to respect us. If you repeatedly cancel plans last-minute, constantly claim your job is more important than a date night or won’t invite us to meet your family and friends… those things show a massive lack of respect and we won’t be cool with it.
- You want to play the field. If you’re under the ridiculous (and offensive) impression that you’re going to find someone better than us, go ahead and keep dating… because we’re not going to be seeing you anymore. You’re definitely going to lose us if you refuse to delete your dating apps and want to see other people. We’re not going to be one of many.
- You’re afraid of the future. If you can’t commit to us or anything else in your life, there’s a serious problem. Don’t stick with a terrible job because you’re too scared to put in the work to find something you love or get stuck in the same city because you don’t know if you could make it somewhere new even though you’ve always dreamed of leaving. That kind of fear isn’t super attractive. We’ve got plans and goals and dreams and we expect you to as well.
- You lead us on. We’re smart enough to figure out when you’re totally playing us, but that doesn’t mean we won’t be totally pissed off. If you try to lead us on, you’ll find out pretty quickly just how well that will go over.
- You act like a big baby. This is so lame and boring and just not happening. Please don’t whine when we reschedule a plan (with tons of advance notice) because we have to work, complain when we want to see our friends instead of you or act like committing to us would ruin your entire world. Those things aren’t going to fly.
- You expect to do zero work. If you can’t even pick the bar we’re going to for dinner, we’re not going to be very impressed by you. It’s not okay to date us and think that we’re going to put all the effort in. That may have worked in the past, but it’s not cool with independent women.
- You want things to stay the same. Relationships have to progress and grow. That’s kind of the entire point. When you want stuff to stay exactly the same, you’re going to lose us. Although we want certain milestones on our own terms, we still want to move forward, and if you’re not into that, we’re going to say goodbye.
- You’re intimidated. We’ve been around the dating block and by now, we totally get that some guys are going to be freaked out by our ambition and careers. If you’re one of them, that’s okay. We’ll survive. Just know that if you ever want to find love with an awesome woman, you definitely have to get over yourself.
