Admittedly, some guys have a bad reputation for playing games with women or not always being foreright about what they want. However, I can assure you that when we really want something, we generally let it be known. The guy in your life may not always come out and say it, but his actions don’t lie. For example, when he’s dying to kiss you, it will be obvious. Whether you’re on a first date, a third date, or with a guy who’s desperate to get out of the friend zone, here are some signs he wants to lock lips.
- He stares at your mouth. You’ll notice I didn’t say these were subtle signs. When a guy gets fixated on wanting to kiss you (or more), it’ll be hard for him to look away from your mouth. That’s become his target/obsession at the moment. He may not even realize that he’s staring or perhaps making you feel uncomfortable, but it’s coming from a good place (that is, if you feel the same).
- He compliments your lips. In addition to staring at your mouth, a guy who wants to kiss you may compliment your lips. A guy who does this as soon as he meets you probably prepared the line ahead of time, but one who seems to say it more spontaneously has probably taken a liking to you and is thinking about kissing you. If it wasn’t on his mind, he would probably find some other way to compliment you.
- He crosses the touch barrier. I should mention that a guy who wants to kiss you will cross the touch barrier without being creepy. If he tries to touch you in a sleazy or aggressive way, there’s a good chance he’s interested in something that goes beyond kissing. If it’s a more gentle touch that doesn’t cross any boundaries, then it’s likely that he’s just looking to kiss you and has no plans to take it any further right now.
- He runs out of things to say. Keep a lookout for a guy who goes from being engaged in the conversation to suddenly having nothing to say. This can be a sign that he’s now consumed with wanting to kiss you. He’s no longer thinking straight or able to carry a conversation because making out with you is all he can think about. I mean, I never claimed that guys were great at multi-tasking. A guy that is quiet all of a sudden clearly has his thoughts elsewhere.
- He leans in close. This is another sign that isn’t particularly subtle, although it will make it clear that he’s incredibly into you. To be fair, he may want to take things beyond a kiss, but if he tries to lean in close to you, he’s sending a signal that he’s interested in kissing you to start with. Perhaps more importantly, he’s also positioning himself to do just that.
- He insists on a hug. This can be a somewhat clever way of getting close enough to kiss. Honestly, it’s kind of an impressive move because hugs feel rather non-threatening. However, he’ll insist on a hug as a way to pull you close and then linger a little bit as a way to let you know that he wants to kiss you too. Where things go from there is up to you.
- His voice goes low. A guy’s voice will sometimes seem like a whisper when he wants to kiss you. It’s almost a way of creating intimacy between you and making it so you have to be close to him to hear. It’s almost like he’s trying to secretly convey that he wants to make out. I mean, it doesn’t make sense to yell at someone before putting the moves on them, right?
- He has gum or a mint. Most guys know well enough to avoid bad breath if they’re going to kiss someone. In fairness, some always have a stick of gum or a mint in their pocket just to be sure. If you see him put it in his mouth right in front of you, it could be a sign of his intentions to kiss you at some point.
- He has a nervous energy. This is another common sign that a guy wants to make a move and kiss you. I’m sorry to say that we aren’t all calm, cool, and collected all of the time. Some of us get nervous when we think about trying get close to someone on a date. That nervous energy can manifest in a lot of different ways. However, it’s almost always a sign that he likes you and has an interest in kissing you before the night is over.
- He lingers when you say goodbye. When it’s time to say goodbye, a guy who’s dying to kiss you will never just walk away. He’ll try to linger and prolong the moment while working up the courage lean in. Like I said, not all guys are super suave. We’re just trying to stay in the moment while working up the courage to do something. So if you sense a guy lingering, maybe just give him a break and make the first move, okay?
