A Guy Reveals How To Tell When He Sees You As A Potential Girlfriend

The early days of any courtship can be equal parts exciting and confusing, especially since most of us guys don’t make it easier by being unclear about our feelings and intentions. I can’t promise to have all of the answers, but I can share with you some common signs that a guy is at least considering you as a potential girlfriend and could be about to make his move.

  1. He plans ahead. Making last-minute plans can be fun and spontaneous, but they’re also consistent with a guy who wants to keep things casual. With a potential girlfriend, a guy will always be thinking ahead. Even if it’s as simple as making plans for the weekend on Monday or Tuesday, planning for the future is a sign that you’re on his girlfriend radar. Think about it this way: he’s locking down plans with you ahead of time because he’s eager to see you.
  2. You meet his friends. It doesn’t take a genius to realize that meeting a guy’s friends is a step in the right direction. It doesn’t always have to be some official meet and greet. If a guy is cool bringing you around his best buddies, he’s at least considering you as his new girlfriend. That’s because he’s clearly comfortable with you and thinks your friends will like you too. Also, he might want to check with his friends if they think you’re girlfriend material. It might be a test, but it’s typically a good sign.
  3. He shares his past. A guy isn’t going to get deep and personal with someone who isn’t going to be around that long. If he’s comfortable going into detail about his past, he definitely thinks you have girlfriend potential. It’s a sign that he wants you to get to know him better and thinks you’ll be around for a while.
  4. He’s interested in your past. Naturally, the same is true going the other way. If a guy is interested in your past, whether it be your childhood or your dating history, he has at least some interest in you as a potential girlfriend. In a casual relationship, most guys aren’t going to waste time talking about that stuff. However, he’ll be interested in that kind of stuff if he thinks you might become a regular fixture in his life.
  5. He cares about your opinion. If he doesn’t care about your opinion, he’s a jerk who isn’t worth your time. Of course, that means the opposite is true if a guy actively seeks your opinion and feelings about things. This means he’s taking you seriously and might be interested in being your boyfriend. Wanting to hear your opinions means the relationship is going deeper than the surface, which is a good thing.
  6. His guard comes down. Guys know that they can’t act cool and suave all the time. They might try to act that way at the very beginning, but it’s typically good news when they let that guard down. If he’s willing to be vulnerable or nerdy around you and isn’t overly concerned with being perfect, it means he wants to show you his whole personality. In a way, he’s testing the waters to see if you’re still interested once he starts showing his true self.
  7. He compliments your non-physical traits. Any guy will tell you that you’re beautiful if he thinks it’ll get you into bed. Hopefully, that’s not breaking news. But a guy who’s interested in you as a girlfriend will compliment things other than your looks. In fact, he sees you as someone important because he likes things about you other than how you look.
  8. He touches you (in a non-sexual way). Intimacy can be a scary thing for a lot of guys. Of course, a guy will want to sleep with you. But if a guy only wants something casual, hand-holding and other kinds of non-sexual touching will be avoided at all costs. On the contrary, a guy who views you as a potential girlfriend will be looking for physical contact. He won’t mind hand-holding or cuddling or playful touching. In fact, he’ll embrace various forms of non-sexual touching to show you that he likes you.
  9. You don’t see anyone else around. If you’re hanging out with a guy and can’t find evidence of other women in his life, there’s a good chance a guy sees you as a potential girlfriend. That being said, you’re still wise to tread lightly. Some guys are sneaky about this when they’re seeing other people. But if he’s not on a dating app and doesn’t seem to be hanging out with other women, there’s a good chance he’s slowly working his way toward making you his girlfriend.
  10. He spends the night at your place. Obviously, guys who want to keep it casual will avoid spending the night together. That should be a given. Of course, that means a guy who’s willing to stay over is open to things being more than casual. Perhaps he’s staying over because he’s trying to make you his girlfriend. Just be aware of the distinction between a guy who wants to spend the night and a guy who feels obligated to spend the night. Most of the time only the guy who’s eager to stay the night is considering you as a potential girlfriend.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.