A Guy Reveals Little Things That Mean A Lot To Men That Women Don’t Realize

Someone once said that it’s the little things in life that matter. Part of what makes a great relationship is finding someone who’s willing to do the little things without being told or feeling like it’s a burden. Just like women have little things that they like, guys also have little things that don’t seem like much but can be a big deal. If you don’t know what those things are, it’s probably time to learn. After all, doing any of these things is likely to make the guy in your life very happy.

  1. Compliments Is there a person on the planet who doesn’t like receiving compliments? I know for a fact that women do, so what makes you think that guys don’t like it just as much? Guys want to feel good about themselves too, especially when someone they care about says something nice unprompted.
  2. Backing off when he needs alone time Believe it or not, guys don’t like pushing you away or making you feel unwanted. However, there are times when we need to be left alone. If you can learn to identify when the guy in your life needs some alone time and give him some space, that would be amazing. I promise it won’t go unnoticed when you’re cool about this. In fact, once we get our alone time, we will be more eager to make it up to you by spending some quality couple time together.
  3. Writing love notes Guys aren’t going to admit it publicly, but we love getting little love notes. They don’t have to be long – even a post-it note will suffice sometimes. If one of you is going away or it’s been a long time since you’ve spent quality time together, that’s the perfect time to give a guy a little love note. Just think of it as a way to remind him that someone cares about him. I mean, wouldn’t you want the same treatment?
  4. Letting him watch sports uninterrupted Talk about cliche, right? But if you’re not genuinely interested in whatever sport a guy is watching, just leave him to it. That can even count as giving him some solo time. Unless he says something, most guys don’t want you to fake interest in watching sports. Just let him enjoy it and I promise he’ll appreciate it.
  5. Making plans for a date night Since it’s the 21st century, it’s completely appropriate for women to plan a date. In fact, most guys will appreciate the change of pace. It’s not easy always having to plan dates, so it’s nice to have a break sometimes. Plus, it’ll guarantee that you get to do whatever you want.
  6. Make him a playlist I know I said this is the 21st century, but this is something that never goes out of style. Unless you completely lack an understanding of his musical tastes, a guy will appreciate the little bit of effort you put into making a mixtape or a playlist for him.
  7. Not making him talk about stuff he doesn’t want to talk about Please don’t try to force a guy to open up and talk about something when he doesn’t feel like it. I know sometimes you feel like you have to, but most of the time it’s best to back off. If a guy doesn’t want to talk about something and you drop the topic, guys will notice and it’ll be a big deal for them.
  8. Wearing one of our shirts I can’t explain why, but women always look attractive when wearing a guy’s shirt in the morning. If you get out of bed before a guy does, feel free to put on his shirt and walk around in it. Unless he’s hell-bent on putting that shirt on himself, he will thoroughly enjoy the sight of looking at you wearing his clothes.
  9. Giving little presents This one is obvious, right? Who doesn’t like receiving a little present or a surprise? It could be as simple as coming home with a donut or a coffee for him. If it’s something you’d like, assume that a guy would like it too. Trust me, guys pay attention and appreciate a woman who comes home with little presents for them.
  10. Physical touching I know it sometimes feels like guys only care about sex, but we appreciate other forms of physical affection too. Finding little moments during the day to rub a guy’s back or shoulders means a lot. It may not seem like a big deal, but doing that stuff regularly can go a long way toward making a guy feel more connected to you.
  11. Listen when he vents Being a good listener cuts both ways. Just like you want a guy who will listen when you need to vent, guys need that too. Also, you may not realize it, but we can tell when you’re actually listening and when you’re not, just as I’m sure you can tell with us. Knowing that you care enough to actually listen is a little thing that makes a big difference.
  12. Appreciate his efforts in bed Look, not every guy is going to blow your mind in bed. But I think you can tell when he’s trying. Even if it’s not the best sex of your life, you can at least acknowledge a guy’s effort. I mean, don’t lie and say it was amazing if it wasn’t. But just knowing that you appreciate our effort means a lot and can help our confidence.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.