A Guy Shares 10 Tell-Tale Signs He’s Losing Interesting In You

There can be nothing more frustrating in a relationship than investing time into someone who ends up sorta fading out for seemingly no reason. While there are sometimes ways to fix a dying spark, you first have to recognize that it’s even happening. Obviously, he’s not going to come out and tell you that he’s not feeling it anymore. It’s up to you to read between the lines and figure it out. Keep your eyes peeled for these signs that he’s losing interest in you so you can either fix it or leave.

  1. He stops trying to spend time with you. In fairness, sometimes people are busy and legitimately can’t always find the time. It’s also natural for people to spend less time together once the initial honeymoon phase is over. However, he should still be making an effort to spend one-on-one time with you. When that stops happening, it’s a sign that he’s losing interest in the relationship. After all, you’re not much of a couple if he doesn’t want any couple time.
  2. There are no future plans in place. You can usually tell that a relationship has a future because there is some form of relationship plan being made. This doesn’t have to be an expensive and romantic vacation, but there should be something on the horizon that lets you know you two will still be together in the foreseeable future. It could be something as simple as having tickets to a show that’s a couple of months in the future. Without something like that, it’s hard to know for sure that his interest in you will last.
  3. He resists labels. To be fair, there are a lot of petty reasons why guys resist labels. However, he’ll be less resistant to labeling things if he’s super into you and doesn’t feel his interest waning. When a guy can feel himself losing focus, he definitely won’t allow you to be a serious relationship label on things. This could be a sign that it’s time to get out because the guy has no intention of taking things any further.
  4. There’s a lack of communication. Any serious decline in how frequently you two communicate is usually a bad sign. You want him to need to talk to you every day or at least let you know when something newsworthy happens. If he’s not doing that, it means he just isn’t thinking about you in a serious way. His interest or desire just isn’t there; otherwise, he would make sure that you two communicate regularly.
  5. Conversations are one-sided. This is another thing that relates to communication in a relationship. Granted, guys will always have days when they’re closed off and need a little space. But if it becomes a regular occurrence, it points to a bigger problem. If he’s interested in you, there should be a way to break down his defenses and get him to open up. If your conversations have become like pulling teeth, he’s likely lost interest and he’s checked out of the relationship mentally.
  6. All you seem to do is fight Some fighting in a relationship is normal and healthy. But guys don’t want it to happen all of the time with someone they care about. If he doesn’t try to prevent fights, it could be a sign that he’s losing interest in you. It means he’s not willing to let you get your way to make you happy and he’s not valuing peace and calmness in the relationship anymore because he doesn’t care about the relationship anymore. You know things are getting bad when it’s the guy who is instigating the fights more often than not.
  7. There’s a serious lack of intimacy. This isn’t just about a decrease in your sex life. It’s natural for that to happen a little bit over time. The problem you want to look out for is a complete lack of physical or emotional intimacy. Don’t kid yourself – those types of things take some level of effort. When a guy isn’t putting in that effort, it’s no different from a lack of communication. It can be a sign that he’s just not that interested or invested in the relationship anymore.
  8. He avoids your friends and family. If he’s in a long-term relationship, he knows spending time with your friends and family sometimes is unavoidable. He will put in that effort if he likes you and nows there’s a future. When that effort isn’t there, he either really dislikes your friends and family or his interest just isn’t there anymore.
  9. He doesn’t ask about your life. Being interested in someone literally means being interested in your life. From the moment you neet someone, this can be a good way to gauge a guy’s interest. This doesn’t mean complimenting you or buttering you up. It means being genuinely interested in who you are and what’s happening in your life. If he isn’t asking those types of questions, it’s a safe bet that he’s not interested in you.
  10. He doesn’t notice changes. If you want to test a guy’s interest in you, try making little changes to see if he notices. This could mean a new outfit, a new haircut, or even coloring your hair. Just do something different that to test if he’s paying attention to you. If he fails, either something is up with him or he just lacks interest in you.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.