A Guy Shares How To Grab And Keep A Guy’s Attention

Getting a guy’s attention is one thing, but keeping it is a whole other ball game. Things might be hot and heavy at first, but more often than not the spark fades within a couple of months through no fault of your own. As a guy, let me just say that I understand your struggle. Most of us are either stubborn or oblivious, and few of us have a long attention span. That being said, here are a few things you could try to keep him hooked.

  1. Be confident. I know it’s sometimes easier said than done, but when in doubt, just show a guy that you’re confident and comfortable with yourself. Most guys can sense insecurity, and unless he’s chasing a one-night stand, it’s going to be a turn-off for him. The type of guys who will be open to dating you without playing games will want a woman who’s confident and comfortable in her own skin. We don’t want someone who’s needy and insecure. Plus, being confident makes it seem like there’s something special about you. Guys will be attracted to that for sure.
  2. Show that you know him. Guys crave understanding when it comes to women. One of the best ways to get a guy’s attention is to show that you know what makes him tick. This means using your powers of observation to make an astute assessment that might not be obvious to everyone. If you show him that you understand him, he’ll be impressed and intrigued. He’ll also be more likely to want to be with you long-term.
  3. Cook for him. Things become a cliche for a reason, and this one holds plenty of water. If you want to make your way to a man’s heart, go through his stomach. At the very least, it’ll get his attention. If you can cook a decent meal, he will definitely be impressed. You could also give the “friend” you like a plate of killer brownies as your method of reeling him in. After that, if you can master a dish that he loves, he’ll be in no rush to leave.
  4. Break the touch barrier. Being the one to physically reach out and give him physical affection first is a sure winner. It will take a lot of pressure off him by letting him know you like him. It also helps to keep showing him affection as the relationship progresses. If you can do that, he’ll never doubt your feelings. This will keep his attention and make him less likely to stray.
  5. Smile and laugh. It sounds simple, but guys like being around women who are in a good mood. We also love being the one who makes a woman smile and laugh. Wearing a scowl on your face is a great way to drive men away. After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable all the time?
  6. Keep a little distance. Most guys will want to avoid clingy girls at all costs. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that being all over him will get his attention. You have to show a guy that you like him without smothering him. Drop some hints that you like him but also give him some space. Creating a little bit of mystery about yourself will help get his attention. The goal most of the time should be to show your interest and then make him come to you.
  7. Stay spontaneous. Most guys will be attracted to a woman who’s cool with flying by the seat of her pants. It’s a somewhat rare quality, which is why it can help grab a guy’s attention. Being spontaneous makes you seem exciting and interesting to be around. Of course, you need to maintain that spontaneity to keep a guy hooked. Most guys fear boredom and repetition when they get into serious relationships. Even if you start to settle down, if you can stay adventurous, it’ll keep him coming back for good.
  8. Feed his ego. Most men will eat up compliments and anything else that might inflate their egos. What can I say? Most of us are a little self-obsessed. If you can say things to big him up a bit, it’ll get his attention and he’ll want to spend time with you. As long as you keep doing that, you should keep his interest. I mean, don’t go overboard and make everything about him. Just keep in mind that men like being a heroic figure who’s admired. It’s simple but true.
  9. Take charge in bed. Guys are used to taking the lead in bed, so turning the tables will definitely get his attention. It will show him that you’re different from other women. I can’t guarantee that all guys will be cool with this, but most of us find it super-hot when a woman makes the first move. Of course, it helps to keep looking for ways to take the lead in bed and try new things. This should help keep a guy’s attention and keep both of you happy.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.