A Guy Shares Lame Excuses We Use To Blow You Off

When it comes to telling someone that we don’t want to date them anymore or make a commitment to them, we guys tend to favor creativity over honesty. Of course, more times than not, our excuses are more lame and stupid than creative. Plus, they’re total BS. If you hear any of these phrases from a guy, you should know that he doesn’t really mean it — he just wants to break things off by any means possible.

  1. “I’m scared we’re almost too perfect for each other.” I’ll be the first to admit that this one doesn’t make any sense. No guy has ever thought a girl was “too perfect” for them. This is just a not-so-clever way of trying to keep you on the hook, keeping you as an option for the future while a guy is free to date around. Either that or he only sees you as a friend.
  2. “I’m about to go on vacation.” How is this even a viable excuse for not dating someone? I mean, how long is your vacation? This really means that a guy wants to have his freedom while on vacation without having to worry about having someone back home. It could also be an outright lie and the guy doesn’t think you have a way of figuring out that he’s not actually going away.
  3. “I’ve got to focus on my work right now.” Unless he’s training to be a doctor or has another job that requires him to work 80-plus hours per week, this excuse doesn’t hold any water. We all find a way to balance our work lives with our personal lives. If a guy’s job doesn’t give him enough time to spend with you, that’s up to you to decide, not him.
  4. “I don’t think we want the same things from life.” Unless you’ve been together for at least a year, this excuse doesn’t really resonate. Most people don’t think about this kind of thing after a month or two of dating the same person. This is just a way of trying to let you down easy without sharing the real reasons he doesn’t want to see you anymore.
  5. “I’m just going through a really stressful time right now.” Okay, so maybe he’s doing you a favor by breaking things off if he’s going through a tough time. However, this is just a nice way of saying you’re not the one. Otherwise, going through a stressful period wouldn’t be a viable excuse to break it off with someone.
  6. “I don’t want to jump back into a relationship after my last breakup.” In theory, this kind of makes sense, but it actually means that a guy wants more time to be single and date around. Unless you know for a fact that a guy is coming off a bad breakup, this is a bad excuse that isn’t even close to the truth. He’s just trying to avoid commitment as best he can.
  7. “I don’t know if I believe in commitment.” You don’t believe in commitment? It’s not Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny. Commitment is a real thing that exists in the world. A guy who says this just means he doesn’t want to make a commitment. Don’t worry, it’s probably more of an issue on his end rather than not wanting to commit to you specifically.
  8. “I think you deserve better than me.” I’m sure you ladies are capable of judging whether a guy is good enough for you or not. This is just a clever way to break things off without making you feel like you’re getting dumped.
  9. “I’m afraid if we stay together, I’ll just cheat on you.” This line is just a weird way of saying he’s not ready to make a commitment. Odds are, any guy who uses this as an excuse doesn’t have the maturity to handle a long-term relationship or has deeper issues that make him prone to cheating.
  10. “I think we have a really special friendship I don’t want to ruin.” This is a fancy way of saying “You are not the kind of person I saw myself ending up with.” Come on, if you actually have a “special friendship,” it’s at least worth exploring if it could be something more. No guy is afraid of ruining a friendship for the chance to be something more, which is why this line simply means he’s not that into you.
  11. “My parents think this is a bad time for me to get serious with someone.” If a guy lets his parents call the shots in his personal life, you don’t want to be with him anyway. This is just scraping the bottom of the barrel of excuses. He’ll try to justify it by saying, “My family is really important to me.” In reality, he’s looking for any excuse he can to get out of the relationship.
  12. “I only want something casual and I could never be casual with you.” This seems like another way guys try to avoid commitment, but it’s actually a way of telling you that he doesn’t like you that much. Even if he only wanted a casual relationship, why not give you that option? This lame excuse allies a guy to steamroll your feelings and end things on his terms.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.