A Guy Shares Signs Your Boyfriend Has A Crush On Another Woman

Just because you’re in a happy relationship doesn’t mean you’re never going to be attracted to anyone else. We’re all human and we can’t just stop finding other people interesting or even hot. Of course, there is a big difference between your boyfriend having a harmless crush on another woman and actually cheating on you. Here are some signs your boyfriend has a crush on another woman that might lead to something more if you’re not careful.

  1. He mentions her a lot. First things first: if your boyfriend has a crush on another woman, her name will come up a lot. In his defense, he may not even be doing it on purpose and he may not even realize he has a crush. It’s just natural for people to talk about the things that they like. That means when he’s got a crush on someone else, he’ll unknowingly want to mention or discuss her even when you’re around.
  2. There’s a change in his routine. Any meaningful change in a guy’s routine is a reason to wonder if something is up with him. This is also true when he has a crush on another woman. He might adopt new interests or hobbies because the other woman likes them. It’s also possible that he’ll start spending more time hanging out somewhere that he knows she’ll be. This might seem innocuous, but it does point to him developing feelings for someone else.
  3. He seems interested in her love life. If a guy has a crush on someone, it’s natural for him to take an interest in her personal life. Even if he knows he can’t do anything, he’ll still be interested in what she’s doing. Just to be clear, there’s a difference between talking about someone else’s personal life and being obsessed. If your boyfriend seems to have an unusual interest in another woman’s love life, he must really like her.
  4. He’s not opening up. Unless your boyfriend has always been closed off, there is a reason to be concerned if he’s no longer opening up and talking to you. It’s possible that he’s opening up to the other woman instead. If he’s confiding in someone else, it’s only natural for him to develop feelings for her. To be fair, there are other reasons for him to clam up, but having a crush on someone else is one explanation.
  5. His phone is hidden. It’s always a little sketchy when a guy is super-secretive about his phone. If he’s suddenly more careful, something is up. Perhaps that are some flirty texts with another woman on there that he doesn’t want you to see. If it matters, it may not be that bad. It’s possible that he doesn’t want you to find anything that will make you needlessly jealous or make you get the wrong idea.
  6. He’s on social media a lot more. When a guy has a crush on someone else, social media is usually how he can keep tabs on her. If you notice him checking out the same person’s profile again and again, he might have a crush. The same is true if he’s liking or commenting on someone’s posts.
  7. He’s worried about his appearance. If you’re in a serious relationship, there’s no reason why he should suddenly be worried about his appearance. I mean, he should be somewhat concerned, but if he’s suddenly obsessed with looking his best, something is up. If he’s worried about how he looks every time he leaves the house, it’s possible that he wants to look good for his crush.
  8. He pays less attention to you. Sure, there could be a lot of explanations for why he isn’t paying as much attention to you. He could have other things going on in his life that are distracting him. But if he starts crushing on someone else, it’s natural that he’ll be a little distracted. It’s not always obvious either. It could be less eye contact or him just not listening to you as much. There could be a lot of little things that show he’s distracted from the relationship by a crush on someone else.
  9. He’s got so many mood swings. For what it’s worth, being in a relationship with someone while having a crush on someone else isn’t easy. A guy in this situation will probably be feeling guilty and frustrated. It can be a confusing and stressful time. That means he’ll get defensive at times and perhaps fly off the handle more than he would normally.
  10. He’s less physically affectionate. If your boyfriend is hung up on his crush, it makes sense that he’ll send less affection your way. This could mean less sex, but it could also mean less intimacy during sex. There could also be less cuddling or other forms of affection. While this behavior can be indicative of a lot of things, one explanation is that there is someone else on his mind.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.