If You Accomplish These Things Today, You’re Doing A Good Job

Life wasn’t meant to be easy. Some of us are out here taking it day by day just to get by. But if you really sit down and think about it, we’re all pretty amazing for getting everything we’re undertaking done. Here are 10 things you should feel like a boss for accomplishing today.

  1. Spending any amount of time in your apartment/home Hello, you do pay to live there. Sometimes I get so busy running from here to there that it feels like my place is basically a storage unit and bed and breakfast I regularly frequent. Nothing is wrong with a quiet night in to just enjoy your own abode and get in some QT with the living spaces you created for yourself.
  2. Not complaining about the wild injustice of periods I don’t know about you all, but I’m basically taken out half the month because of my cycle. Mid-cycle I’m likely to have some PMS-like symptoms, then I can start actually PMS-ing about a week leading up to my period. My periods themselves are about 5-7 days long if you include residual spotting. And with all this, I have no choice but to continue life as usual like I’m not bloated, crampy, and bleeding externally all day long. This is a complete abomination if you ask me. Women should be treated to one free coffee at Starbucks once a month as an attempt to ease the suffering. Someone call corporate.
  3. Making any type of human interaction Human beings are biologically wired for connection, but why is it so complicated and draining at times? Successful interpersonal relationship skills do not come naturally. Misunderstandings plague communication and what’s left unsaid can linger far too long. Sometimes, it just feels easier to disconnect and want to live off the grid somewhere in peace.
  4. Doing anything remotely related to adulting I’m still not sure why everyone was in such a rush to grow up. Being able to eat dessert before dinner whenever you want to simply isn’t worth the rest of it. I’m still waiting for someone to start issuing my adulting reward stickers for all the daily BS. I need some recognition and encouragement.
  5. Taking a shower According to dermatologists, we’re all showering way too often. Apparently, we’re only supposed to lather up 2-3 times a week at most. If you’re like me (and most people, I think) and shower every day, just know you’re going above and beyond. Don’t worry, your extra effort is appreciated by anyone who has to smell you today.
  6. Caring about something I missed the memo on when it became no longer cool to participate in things and show up for causes. Society has become so blasé about attending birthday parties, RSVPing to events, even going to fun free little community gatherings. Everyone is just overworked, overtired, and holed off with their families most likely using some form of technology. I miss the excitement of showing some spirit and coming together as a group.
  7. Eating home-cooked food Seriously, I don’t even know if I ever sit down for a meal anymore. My car is basically doubling as a dining room at this point. I’m always on the go and rarely even set aside time to just devote to a meal. Let alone actually preparing an entire dish from scratch. Most of the time I’m just grabbing anything I can eat fast that requires minimal prep or is a quick meal (AKA microwavable). Drive-thrus are also my friend.
  8. Going to work Someone made a joke today about intentionally getting hit by a car to get their student loans paid off, and I have to admit the idea didn’t seem ludicrous at first. It’s tough out here having to show up at the same place over and over just to survive. Every morning when my alarm goes off, I have that flash thought of maybe I should quit right now on the spot, so I don’t have to get up out of bed.
  9. Paying your bills on time This isn’t even about having the actual funds available in your account. I refuse to set my bills to draft automatically just to be safe and keep track of what I’m still paying, but it’s a monthly challenge to keep up with remembering to log into my web accounts and set up a payment on time. Avoiding a late fee is about my only incentive to stay on top of this.
  10. Doing something for yourself Self-care is beyond a must. With a job, side hustles, and endless responsibilities, though, I have to be really intentional about setting aside designated time to do something leisurely. I don’t even know why I feel guilty when I do settle into “me time,” because it’s crucial to take care of yourself and OK to unwind. You should be your biggest priority.
I’m Cara, not to be confused with Carrie, although you could say I’m a Millennial Bradshaw of sorts. Pop culture connoisseur. Lover of all things creative and passionate about health and personal well-being. Follow me on IG @cara_vale_writer