I’m Addicted To Online Dating & I Don’t Know How To Stop

Online dating hasn’t been taboo in at least a decade; in fact, it’s now a necessity if you’re looking for love. It seems like everyone is on either Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, or eHarmony (or all of the above), including me. While I’ve never actually met anyone online that I ended up dating long-term, that hasn’t stopped me from becoming downright obsessed with looking.

  1. I love the Rush Of Matching With Someone New. I do a lot of left swiping, so when I finally find a guy worth swiping right for and we actually match, my endorphins go sky high. The screen changes, our profile pictures match, and I’m prompted to send a message. What’s going to happen? Could this guy be “The One”? You just never know, and that’s so exciting.
  2. I get Occasional Free Drinks And/or Food. When you meet up with a new guy for a date, generally speaking, some amount of food or drinks (or both) will be involved. I’m cool with going dutch, but a lot of guys do insist on paying on the first date. While many do it in the hopes of getting laid in the future, I don’t put out — I just eat and/or drink and enjoy.
  3. It’s totally acceptable to keep my options open. Anytime I start dating a guy, I always have at least one other guy waiting in the outfield. I also never delete my dating account because I know there’s always someone hotter, taller, and more my type hidden in there somewhere. I’m fully aware that guys do the same exact thing and have no problem with it until we make a commitment to only each other. Until then, I’ll date up to four guys at once.
  4. I feel hot as hell. When I wake up to a slew of texts from different guys I’m chatting with, it makes me feel like I’m in demand, and like I’m desired in a weird way. Even if it doesn’t go any further, knowing some random dude thought I was good enough to swipe right on is a serious ego boost.
  5. I’m Stupid Busy And Can’t Meet Guys Organically. With working two bartending jobs and being a freelance writer, I’m crazy busy. I don’t have time to go to a bar and sit there waiting for the man of my dreams to walk in and sit down next to me. I also don’t have time to go out on weekends and mingle because I’m slinging drinks. I love working and making money, so online dating has provided me the ease of meeting guys right through my phone.
  6. Half the guys I match with don’t respond, so I have to move on to the next one. If we match and I message a guy, I really expect him to respond, even if it’s to say, “No, thanks.” He doesn’t need to answer me right away, but if he waits longer than 24 hours or never responds, I get pissed, unmatch with him, and move on to the next guy.
  7. I compete with my friends for matches & get jealous when they match and I don’t. This isn’t always the case, but sometimes when my friends match and vibe with a guy off Tinder, I can get jealous. I wonder why I’m not connecting like they are but I realize that everyone is different and every relationship is unique. However, it does make me want to go back online to keep looking to find a guy who might be good for me.
  8. I Do Want A Relationship Eventually. Even though I tend to date multiple guys at one time, eventually I do want to pursue a serious relationship with one guy. I have my booty call guys I know nothing about (and I like it that way), but I also have ones that I enjoy talking to about my day and bonding with about similar interests. If I’m going to find one that sticks eventually, I need to be constantly on the lookout for him.
  9. Sex Is So Easy To Find With No Strings Attached. Finding sex on online dating apps is like shooting fish in a barrel. If I need just a quick one-night stand with a hot stranger, nine times out of 10, I can easily find one. There are also all kinds of different things guys are into and it lets me explore my sexuality safely. I also don’t need to worry about hurting anyone because I’m honest about my intentions for that evening.
  10. Online Dating makes it Easier To Deal With Rejection. If I never met the guy in person, I only meet him once and we don’t vibe well, or if he never calls me back, then it’s a million times easier to deal with than being set up by a friend or someone who comes into my work. Being set up my friends is the worst, especially if it doesn’t work out. At least with online dating, you don’t have to tell anyone who or what you’re doing unless you want to do it.
28-year-young writer with a love for reality TV, boy bands, Tinder, and being the most bad ass single lady on the East Coast.