What Adele Can Teach Us About Love

Now that Adele’s new album is out, we’re all going to binge on ice cream and cry about the men we used to know. Of course, even though Adele sings some depressing songs about heartbreak, there are positive messages you can gain from her songs. If you really stop to think about it, here’s what Adele can teach us all about love:

  1. Your ex is the one missing out. Even though Adele loves to sing about the men in her life who got away, they’re really the ones missing out. After all, she’s a rich, beautiful, record-breaking singer. Even though she’s upset about her failed relationships, she’s not the one missing out. All of her exes are, and so are all of your exes.
  2. Breakups can actually be good for you. Adele’s heartbreak has led to her fame. If she wasn’t forced to deal with crummy relationships in the past, she wouldn’t have anything to sing about. So instead of thinking about the way your exes have ruined your life, think of all of the good that their betrayal can bring you. Pick up a paintbrush or a pen to put a creative spin on your pain.
  3. Everyone deals with heartbreak. You can’t fault yourself for getting dumped. After all, if someone like Adele has been broken up with, it can happen to anyone. It doesn’t make you any less amazing. Some relationships just don’t work out.
  4. It’s okay to think about your ex. Time doesn’t actually heal all wounds. Some men will hold a place in your heart for years after you two part ways. Of course, even though he’s still on your mind doesn’t mean that you need him back in your life.
  5. You can survive any breakup. Think about all of the painful things Adele has sang about in the past. Even though she’s been through some rough times, she’s persevered. Now, by the sound of her, she’s stronger now than ever before.
  6. You’ll probably fall in love more than once. You aren’t limited to loving just one person, so if you get your heart broken by someone special, there might be another man just around the corner. So keep your heart open.
  7. It’s not childish to want a boyfriend. Some people claim that Taylor Swift is childish, because love is the only thing she sings about. Of course, no one would dare say that about Adele, whose album is filled with love songs. That’s why you should never feel embarrassed about wanting to be loved. It’s what everyone wants.
  8. You won’t always get closure. “Hello” proves that Adele hasn’t gotten closure on all of her relationships. Sometimes, you won’t always get the opportunity to say that you’re sorry. That’s why you have to try to move on from failed relationships, even when you don’t feel like you’re ready for it.
  9. Enjoy dating while you’re young. Adele’s new album has a lot of references to her younger days (even though she’s only twenty-seven). So if you’re still in your early 20s, enjoy dating without worrying too much about your future. That’s what it seems like Adele wishes she had done.
  10. You should never give up on love. Don’t assume that you deserve to be alone, just because a few of your relationships failed. Adele has been in several relationships, but she continued to date. Now, she has a serious boyfriend and an adorable son. All of those years of dating paid off for her, and they’ll pay off for you, too.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.