All I Wanted Was For You To Fight For Me, But You Gave Up So Easily

I truly loved you and I have no regrets about our relationship, but I do have one wish: I wish you fought for me, for us. Instead, you just gave up. Things got hard and you didn’t even try to stick it out. You immediately waved the white flag and tossed me aside as if you didn’t care at all. Why?

  1. Wasn’t I worth the fight? Clearly you didn’t think I was. You just couldn’t be bothered to make an effort, and that’s something I will never understand. Times got tough, but they weren’t impossible. We always managed to make things work, but all of a sudden you stopped trying. You gave up so easily, and just like that, I was all alone. I would have done so much more to save us, but I couldn’t do it alone.
  2. I was willing to fight for you. That’s the crappiest part — knowing that if the roles were reversed, I would have fought for you with everything I had. I wasn’t asking anything of you that I wasn’t more than willing to do myself. Knowing you didn’t feel the same makes me feel so pathetic.
  3. Did you ever really love me? You shouldn’t be surprised that I’m asking that question since by the end of our relationship, I wasn’t really sure. You tossed me away like yesterday’s news, and that doesn’t really scream deep and abiding love. You gave up on us without even trying to make things work. How could you?
  4. You wasted so much of my time. All that time, I thought you actually cared about us and saw a real future together, but when push came to shove, you weren’t there for me. I thought I had found the perfect guy for me and you made me believe I was the one for you. I spent years believing that and then you just left me. I could have spent that time looking for a guy who could really love me.
  5. How could you just give up on us? One day I was everything to you and the next day I was nothing. It was like you stopped loving me, stopped caring, stopped trying overnight. You just up and quit on me. There was no notice. I was doing everything I could to keep us together, but I was fighting a losing battle because there’s no sense in fighting for someone who’s already given up. I wish I knew what changed for you.
  6. Did you really think love would always be easy? Every relationship, no matter how good it is, requires work to keep it strong and healthy. Nothing in life comes easy and I thought you knew that, but it’s like you wanted everything just handed to you. The second you needed to make an effort was the second you stopped trying. Was I not worth it?
  7. What hurt most is realizing that all your promises were empty. You used to say that nothing could tear us apart, but in the end, you did just that. You promised me a life full of happiness. You promised to never hurt me and that you’d always love me. You promised we’d spend the rest of our lives together. I believed every word, and the second you gave up, I knew our whole relationship was one big lie.
  8. What happened to all the plans we made? We were building a future together and then all of a sudden, we didn’t even have a present. We talked about moving in together, getting married, having children, and growing old together. When did that vision change? When did I start being the lonely dreamer? When did you start seeing a future without me in it?
  9. I deserved more from you. I was a great girlfriend, of that I’m sure. Why didn’t you appreciate me? When we started dating, you were so different. You were such a great guy and one hell of a boyfriend. You loved me and I never doubted that you cared about me. That all changed, though. The second you had to fight for us, you just gave up. I deserved more from you. Our RELATIONSHIP deserved more.
  10. Who cares what everyone else thought? What mattered is what WE thought. This relationship was between the two of us. Outside opinions shouldn’t have mattered. They didn’t to me, so why did they to you? At the end of the day, you cared more about what other people thought than what you thought yourself. I guess I’m better off without you after all.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.