Are You An Alpha Or Beta Female?

Are You An Alpha Or Beta Female?

There’s no wrong way to be a woman — you could be extroverted, outspoken and relentlessly ambitious or shy, laid-back and perfectly content with doing your thing in the background. Whether you have an alpha or a beta personality doesn’t matter in the long run, but it’s worth knowing which one you are so you can maximize on the pros of each type. Not sure which side you fall on? Here are a few hints:

  1. You’re an alpha female if you stubbornly stick to your standards. You know who you are, what you want and you won’t budge on what’s important to you. This is what makes you such a force to be reckoned with, in the boardroom and bedroom. Sometimes this makes you a little rigid, but you’re unapologetic in your demands and that makes you way more likely to get what you want in life.
  2. You’re an alpha female if you take the lead. Wait around? What the hell for? You have no problems taking control of situations. That’s why you’re the woman in charge who gets stuff done efficiently and done well. In fact, you actually prefer to be the one in charge. You can sometimes come off as a control freak, but you’re a natural born leader who needs room to pave a new path and make your mark.
  3. You’re an alpha female if you’re ridiculously independent. You like doing things in your own way and you don’t need anyone around to help you. You’ve got things sorted and God help anyone who stands in your way or tries to clip your wings. Clingy guys, beware. You definitely don’t need a relationship to be happy, and it’s possible you might not even want one — you’re too busy bossing life all on your own.
  4. You’re an alpha female if you’re unwavering in your confidence. One of the classic traits of alpha females is that they’ve got high self-esteem. It’s the kind of confidence that comes naturally to you — you don’t need to fake it ’til you make it. Some people might misunderstand you and think you’re conceited, but it’s not that at all. You don’t think you’re better than anyone else, you just know that you’re as worthy as them of the best things in life.
  5. You’re an alpha female if you’re outspoken. If something pisses you off in your relationship or with your friends, you’ll speak up about it. You like being honest about what you feel and you’re the type who lays her cards on the table. Beating around the bush puts you off big time so you lay your cards on the table and are always upfront about what you’re thinking and feeling. This can make relationships a bit tense sometimes, but you believe in total honesty and transparency.
  6. You’re an alpha female if you know when to walk away. You don’t settle for less than you deserve and you will walk away from a toxic relationship before it gets the better of you. You wouldn’t dream of settling because you’re too strong for that. If you’re mistreated or if a relationship has hit a dead end, you don’t waste any more time — you end it and move on.
  7. You’re a beta female if you’re introverted. You are a big thinker, like quiet times and try to avoid the spotlight that the alpha female basks in. You might not speak your mind as much as her, but that doesn’t mean you’re weak. In fact, the time you spend on your own means you have an incredible knowledge of who you are and are comfortable in your own skin, and that’s a gift.
  8. You’re a beta female if you don’t mind being led. You have no problems letting other people take over. You don’t mind taking orders — it doesn’t intimidate you to take a backseat sometimes. It doesn’t mean that you’re insecure, necessarily — it could just be that you are not always hungry for control. You know you have fantastic ideas and things to contribute, but you don’t need accolades for it. You’re happy to do what you do and do it well in the background because you’re secure in your abilities.
  9. You’re a beta female if you’re very emotional. You’re in tune with your feelings and empathetic to others, but sometimes you place others’ needs in front of your own. This can be a good thing, but not if you’re compromising on what you need, so you have to make sure you’re not settling. Being in touch with your emotions makes you way more sympathetic and empathetic towards others, qualities which are in short supply but desperately needed in this world.
  10. You’re a beta female if you like being courted. You want men to make the first move and be chivalrous, as well as court you. You want the chase and you sometimes like to play hard to get, unlike the alpha female who goes for what she wants immediately. This means you often get to experience some amazing love, and while you don’t have unrealistic expectations about Prince Charming or anything of the sort, you do enjoy some traditional romance.
  11. You’re a beta female if you prefer the gentle approach. When your friend is wearing an unflattering outfit and asks for your opinion on it, you’ll be careful about how to tell her that it doesn’t suit her. Yes, there’s sugar-coating involved, unlike the alpha female who will be blunt and has run out of sugar. You like to take the gentle route because you don’t want to upset anyone. This will make people in your life feel safe coming to you with anything — they know they’ll always get an understanding ear.
  12. You’re a beta female if you’re more passive than aggressive. When your ideas get stolen at work or your boyfriend wants to do something that you’re not that keen on, you’re more likely to be passive and go with the flow. You don’t really speak up the way an alpha female would and while you have to be careful that you’re not taken advantage of, you’re known as a peace keeper and a mediator, which can feel like a great role to have.
Jessica Blake is a writer who loves good books and good men, and realizes how difficult it is to find both.