Always Choose Being Single Over Being In A Toxic Relationship Or You’ll Regret It

If you’re in an unhealthy relationship, you might think that a bad relationship is better than no relationship at all but you couldn’t be more wrong. Have the strength to get out—you’ll be much better off on your own.

  1. If you’re not happy, don’t stay. Why would you ever want to stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy? Being with someone who’s just “good enough” isn’t better than being alone. Experiencing the single life helps you become happy on your own and you have to achieve that first before you can be happy with someone else. Let go of the guy who doesn’t make you happy so you can make room for the guy who will.
  2. If he doesn’t deserve a second chance, don’t give him one. Sometimes what you think of as being “nice” is just being weak. Not every guy deserves a second chance. Some guys should have used their first shot with you a little more wisely. You deserve a guy who treats you right from day one, not a guy who sees how much he can get away with before you finally kick him to the curb. Some guys just aren’t worth it.
  3. You have to put yourself first. Why aren’t you making yourself a priority? That’s the problem here—you think that you have to change who you are just to be with him. You think you need to put his needs first and sacrifice your own to find happiness. How does that make sense? You’re in charge of your own life, so put a little less time worrying about him and a little more time thinking about you. If your relationship is that unhealthy then what you really need is to be alone.
  4. You deserve true love. That’s the one thing you need to remember, so keep your eye on the ball. You’ll never find love if you don’t realize that you deserve it. You can’t settle for Mr. Wrong because you’re missing out on Mr. Right. Why be in an unhealthy relationship when you have the potential to be in a healthy one?
  5. If you want more in your life, don’t be afraid to go after it. If you need more from the man you’re with then ask for it—if he can’t give it to you, it’s time to move on. He may never realize on his own that he’s taking you for granted. Make your feelings known and if he still doesn’t change his ways, know that you’ll be so much better off on your own than with a man who doesn’t make you truly happy. At that point, it’s time to just let him go.
  6. You’re not high maintenance for wanting what you deserve. There’s a huge difference between being high maintenance and wanting a man to love you the way you deserve. High maintenance women expect men to go above and beyond for them. A high maintenance woman doesn’t want a boyfriend so much as she wants a servant to wait on her hand and foot. If your guy is claiming you’re asking too much when you’re really asking for the basics, there’s an issue.
  7. You need a man who builds you up, not tears you down. Your partner should be boosting your self-esteem, not ripping it to shreds. He should be the person cheering you up, not the cause of your tears. If the man you’re with makes you feel bad about yourself, why on earth are you still with him? You should be with someone who makes you feel like you’re the most amazing woman in the world, not like he could do better.
  8. Unhealthy relationships are often lonelier than actually being on your own. When you’re in a bad relationship, you tend to hide that little tidbit from the other people in your life. Instead of telling your friends and family what’s really going on, you act like everything totally okay. You’re lying to your friends and sometimes to yourself. When you’re the only one who knows your secret, you’ll feel more alone than you thought possible.
  9. The longer you stay, the more likely you are to settle. If you recognize that your relationship is unhealthy, you need to get out. The longer you stay, the more you’ll get sucked into this warped relationship and begin to think what’s unhealthy is actually normal. Don’t settle for a relationship that will never leave you satisfied. You deserve real love so the sooner you get out of an unhealthy relationship, the better.
  10. The right guy is out there. You know what he’s waiting for though? For you to finally break things off with Mr. Wrong. You might feel like settling right now, but in the end, you’ll regret it. Mr. Right is out there but unfortunately, it can take a lot of time to find him. Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs to find Prince Charming, but when you finally find your forever after, you’ll be glad you took the time to be on your own because he’ll be so worth the wait.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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