Why You Should Always Keep The Lights On During Sex

Why You Should Always Keep The Lights On During Sex ©iStock/Mediaphotos

Your man wouldn’t be sleeping with you if he hated the way you looked. That’s why you should stop being embarrassed by your body and embrace your appearance. Instead of turning the lights off during sex, keep them on so he can see your sexy body move around. It’ll benefit you both.

  1. It’ll feel more intimate. When the lights are off, you’ll be able to see the shape of your partner, but not much else. But when the lights are on, you get to look your partner in the eye. If you love them, then that little change will make a world of a difference. Everything is more intense with eye contact.
  2. It’ll be easier to orgasm. Men are visual creatures, which is why they’ll finish much faster if they have a good view of you. Getting to see your breasts, your booty, and the rest of your body in the light of day will drive him mad.
  3. It’ll stop him from fantasizing. If you’re worried about your man thinking about another woman, flick the lights on. When it’s dark, it’s easy to imagine any other body pressed on top of yours. But when the lights are on, you can’t stop yourself from seeing the person you’re sleeping with, so they’ll be the only thing on your mind.
  4. It’ll make you feel more confident. When the lights are on, you can’t hide your freckles and cellulite. That sounds like a scary thing, but once you see how much your partner enjoys looking at you, you’ll realize that you’re beautiful just the way you are. It’s a quick confidence booster.
  5. It’ll make certain positions easier. If you can’t see your partner clearly, you could end up bumping noses and kneeing him in the groin. But when the lights are on, you’ll be able to move into any position you’d like with ease. It’ll make sex a lot more enjoyable.
  6. It’ll help him figure out what you like. When he can see your facial expressions, it’ll be easier for him to judge what you are and aren’t enjoying. If you flinch at something, he’ll stop doing it. If you bite your lip during a certain move, it’ll be his cue to keep going. He won’t have to rely on your moans anymore, because your face will give your feelings away.
  7. It’ll be a major turn-on. Men know that your self-consciousness is the reason why you want to leave the lights off. If you turn the tables on him and ask him to keep the room illuminated, he’ll be impressed by your confidence—and everyone knows that confidence is the sexiest quality a woman could ever have.
  8. It’ll give you adrenaline. If the neighbors peeked through your windows, they wouldn’t be able to see you two having sex in the dark. But if you leave the lights on, you create the opportunity for a peep show. Of course, you don’t actually want anyone else to see what you’re doing, but the idea of it can be thrilling.
  9. He already knows what you look like. There’s no reason to be embarrassed about your naked body, especially in front of your partner. After all, he’s seen it all before. Why would you hide it from him today when he saw it yesterday?
  10. It’ll bring you two closer. It’s scary to strip off your clothes for another person. Once you’re comfortable being naked in front of your partner, then you’ll start to become more comfortable with them in every other aspect of life. It’s a stepping stone to feeling completely safe and at ease with them.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.