Am I A Serial Dater? Signs You’re All About The Chase

While many people date to try and find love, serial daters are unique in that they date to simply date. They love the chase that comes in the early days of dating but aren’t interested in what comes next. Are you a serial dater? Check out these 10 signs that you could be!

  1. You lose interest after the honeymoon period. The honeymoon period is that early era in a relationship where everything seems made of sunshine and roses. It’s where two people are enjoying each other’s company and falling in love and those complex issues that plague relationships haven’t set in yet. It’s a period of bliss! Unfortunately, the honeymoon phase has to pass eventually. If you lose interest the moment that the “magic” seems to evaporate, it’s a sign that you’re more interested in those easy days than a long-term relationship.
  2. It’s hard to delete your apps, even after you find someone promising. Dating apps are a haven for a serial dater. Since serial daters typically enjoy dating multiple people at once, Bumble, Hinge, Tinder, and the rest are all blessings. You’re probably a serial dater if you love these dating apps so much to the point where you find it hard to pause or delete your profile, even after you find someone promising.
  3. You find a problem with nearly every person after a few dates. If you’re finding a problem with every single person you date after you’ve been out a few times, there’s a chance you’re just picky. And don’t apologize for having standards! But it’s also possible that you’re purposely finding problems with everyone because you don’t actually want to find the one. Because finding the one would mean your dating days are over.
  4. You can’t imagine a future with your dates. To be clear, there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to talk about the future when you’re in the early days of dating. In fact, discussing the future too soon might even be a dating red flag. That said, if you can’t stand even thinking about a future that the people you date are part of, it suggests you don’t see them in your future. In other words, you only want them around for the present. You want to date them, but not forever.
  5. You’re always dating somebody. It could be a sign that you’re a serial dater if you’re always dating someone. Or if you always have a romantic interest. Why’s that? There’s nothing wrong with always having a romantic interest, but most people who have done the rounds on the dating scene will tell you that there just aren’t that many great catches out there. If you can find someone worth dating 100% of the time, you might be very lucky. But it’s more likely that you love the idea of dating so much that you don’t really care who you’re seeing.
  6. The butterfly factor is super important to you. Those butterflies that hit you when you first start dating someone new are pretty addictive. Sometimes, though, you can still develop a great bond with someone who doesn’t give you those butterflies at first, or at all. If that’s a deal-breaker for you, you could be a serial dater. The adrenaline and fun are more important to you than developing a long-lasting connection.
  7. The thought of settling down scares you a little. Serial daters don’t fantasize about settling down, getting married, moving in together, or starting a family. Actually, these things might even scare them a little bit. If you know in your bones that settling down is not the path you want to take, and the idea even terrifies you, it may mean that you’re just built for a different route. You might just be better suited to staying in the dating world permanently.
  8. But so does the thought of being single. While serial daters aren’t drawn to the idea of long-term relationships, they’re also not crazy about being single. That’s one of the other reasons why serial daters tend to always have a date. They do love the actual experience of dating. But also, they don’t know how to be on their own. Or the very idea of being on their own is daunting to them. So they find a happy balance by consistently dating without ever committing.
  9. You very rarely turn down a potential date. Generally, it takes a lot for serial daters to turn a date down. A combo of their aversion to being alone and their love of dating in general means that having a date is important to them. So they’re more open-minded when it comes to dating. If you’re a serial dater, you might be more likely to give nearly everyone a chance.
  10. You ditch the date when it starts to get difficult. Sooner or later in every relationship, things get difficult. For some, the difficult conversations and need for compromise come early on. For others, things are easy for a long time. But the rough patches are inevitable. It’s a sign that you could be a serial dater if you never stick around for those rough patches. Serial daters tend to ditch the date when it gets difficult. They’re not in it for a long-term relationship with all of its ups and downs. Instead, they’re there for the fun and fleeting experience of dating itself.
Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.