Given that many of us grew up on Disney movies and rom-coms, it’s no wonder that so many women are too idealistic when it comes to love and relationships. However, it’s important to realize when the things we want from the men we date are a little unrealistic and we might need to adjust our expectations. Here’s how you know you might need to temper your ultra-romantic desires.
- You always think everyone else’s relationships are better. If you find yourself romanticizing everyone else’s relationship and believing that other couples you know are more head over heels in love and more lovey-dovey than you and your partner are, you’re not seeing things clearly. No one’s relationship is perfect and believing that is only going to screw you over.
- You get upset when your partner can’t read your mind. Because you believe in the concept of your own personal Prince Charming, you believe that the object of your affection should be able to read your mind and know exactly what you’re thinking, feeling, desiring, and needing at any given moment. This is totally ridiculous—no one can read anyone else’s mind and if you want your partner to do certain things or meet certain needs, you’ll need to be a mature adult and actually have a conversation about it.
- You want to be the center of your partner’s world. Even though you logically know that you and your partner need to have separate lives, you still expect to be at the center of their universe 24/7. You believe they should drop everything for you at any time and that no matter what else is going on in their life, you should be at the very top of their list of priorities. This is unreasonable and completely unfair and means you’re being way too idealistic.
- You want to be spoiled and treated like a queen 24/7. While it’s nice to be pampered by your partner every now and then, you’re not royalty and they’re not your servant. Yes, your partner should offer small gestures to show their care and affection for you, you should be offering them the same in return. Not only that, but you should realize that it’s not your partner’s job to make you feel like a queen every second of the day. As long as they’re treating you with respect and courtesy and making sure you feel loved, that’s all you can really hope for in love.
- You want love to be like it is in the movies. All those rom-coms and Disney movies you grew up watching? You still think love should really be like that. You believe your partner should be your white knight riding in on horseback to sweep you off your feet and transform your life into a fairytale. Girl, grow up. The movies are good particularly because they’re nothing like real life, not because they mirror it. You’re being way too idealistic here.
- You’re always stressing about how your relationship looks online. If you’re obsessed with posting selfies of you and your partner and making it seem like you’re living the romantic dream on Instagram, Facebook, etc. then you’re worried about the wrong thing. No one cares about your relationship and you’re probably causing more annoyance than envy in others. Worry about how your relationship actually is rather than how you want it to look on the outside.
