11 Amazing Things That Happen When You Date Someone Who Doesn’t Give You Mixed Messages

Mixed messages suck every single time you’re on the receiving end of them and they’re rarely an indication of future relationship success. Instead, they’re all about stress. So, when you meet someone who doesn’t give you green and red lights simultaneously, you’ve hit the jackpot. Here are 11 amazing things that happen.

  1. You feel like you can actually enjoy dating. When you deal with someone who gives you unclear messages, it can make dating feel like a minefield. You never know what’s going to happen and if it’s safe to lower your guard (hint: it’s not). When someone’s honest about what they want and how they feel, it means you can chill a bit and enjoy yourself. Hey, what’s the point of dating otherwise?
  2. You know where you stand. Ah, knowing exactly where you stand. When last did you feel that with someone you’d started dating? It’s such a reassuring feeling because no one wants to feel like they’re stepping into a new relationship with a blindfold on. You can enjoy where you’re headed together without feeling like you’re just “going with the flow” and heading for a dead-end.
  3. You save an incredible amount of time. If you’ve ever spent time analyzing a guy’s confusing texts or behavior, you’ll know that it can totally steal your precious hours. Who needs that? When a guy’s so crystal clear that you don’t have to ponder over his hidden meanings, you can do so much more productive stuff. All those hours can go to chasing your dreams.
  4. You can do other things with your best girlfriends. It’s bad enough to waste time analyzing a guy’s behavior on your own, but it’s even worse when you’re spending time with your besties doing that. He’s basically taking over your social life and he’s not even there! All that chatter about what he wants and what he’s really trying to say only pulls you away from getting to spend time with your amazing friends, talking about yourselves and what really matters for a change.
  5. You feel more secure. It’s so much easier to trust someone who’s direct and honest and who hates mixed messages as much as you do. You feel like you can be confident in the relationship because you’re not walking on eggshells that he’s basically laid out on the ground for you to hurt your feet on. It’s so nice to be on solid ground in the relationship!
  6. You’re less stressed. Look, life is stressful enough. You don’t need confusing texts and emojis to make you feel more frustrated. When you’re not dealing with a guy who’s giving you mixed signals, your emotions aren’t being treated like a piñata, which means you can feel good in the relationship. At first, this might actually feel strange if you’re so used to dealing with guys who send you on an eternal goose chase.
  7. You can be honest. A funny thing happens when you date someone who’s open with you about where they’re at and what they want from a relationship. You start to feel more comfortable to express your truth to them. It’s pretty impossible to do that if the person’s always sending you confusing signals because your tendency is to erect some emotional walls. But now, you get the chance to lower them.
  8. You can glimpse into the future. If you’re getting mixed messages from your partner, chances are you’re not fantasizing about your future with him—and you really shouldn’t be because chances are there won’t be one. But when you’re with someone who’s as much of an open book as you are, you can enjoy dreaming up a future without worrying that you’re building something up in your mind that’s never going to happen.
  9. You can ask him questions. Try asking a guy who sends you mixed messages some questions and watch how you end up feeling crazy because his stories don’t add up. Ugh, it sucks. When you’re with a guy who offers you clarity, you feel free to ask him questions because you know you’ll get straight answers. It makes dating so much easier and it also makes communication a dream.
  10. You have more energy. It’s frustrating to get vague answers from or not know where you stand with someone you’ve started dating. Being with a guy who avoids mixed messages means you can preserve your energy. In fact, you’ll feel like you have more energy because he’s uplifting you instead of bringing you down. Mixed messages are toxic and draining!
  11. You feel valued. There’s nothing that dents one’s confidence more than being with someone who’s the king of mixed messages. When you’re dealing with a grown man who can tell you what he wants and where he’s at, you feel that he’s being respectful to you. He values you enough to be real and honest, and honestly? There’s no better foundation for a successful relationship.

There’s nothing worse than a relationship in which you don’t know where you stand. When you finally find a mature guy who’s actually ready for commitment and who wants it with you, you’ll notice a world of difference in how your relationship plays out, and it’ll be amazing.

Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.