Amazing Things That Happen When You Stop Caring About Being Single

Amazing Things That Happen When You Stop Caring About Being Single

Whether you’re newly single or have been for a while, at some point you’ll wake up and realize you no longer care about being single. Why? Because, for starters, you have better things to care about, and secondly, who cares if you are? It’s when you reach that point where you couldn’t possibly give any less of a damn about your single status that stuff starts to fall in place and things become truly amazing. So stop caring about being single and let the amazingness wash over you.

  1. You think of dating as fun instead of a hassle. Since you don’t care that you’re single or have the pressure on you to find someone, you can actually go on dates and have fun! You don’t have to worry about stress, nerves, possible drama, or even brushing your hair. It becomes more about something interesting to do (social experiment, anyone?) than trying to procure a partner.
  2. You’re not afraid to walk away. In addition to dating just for fun, when you stop caring about being single, you’re not afraid to walk away from someone who sucks. On a date with a sexist pig? Tell them to away and go home, sticking them with the bill. Realize after the third drink that if your date were hit by a bus on the way home it would actually be a good thing for humanity? Share your theory and head for the door. You’re completely free.
  3. You stop fearing “date night.” Ugh. Every time someone on Facebook posts a photo of them with their partner out on a Friday or Saturday night and the words “date night” accompany the picture, I want to junk punch them both – and I’m not violent! But the thing about no longer care about being single is that you’re no longer scared to go out by yourself on what is traditionally known as “date night.” Besides, we all know your date with yourself will top any of those couples who think a paint night with cheap wine is anything about which to brag.
  4. You’re totally cool with being foolish. When all the stuff you had to give about being single is gone, you feel completely at ease with being foolish – even with people you find attractive. You figure you have nothing to lose and the interest to date is no longer a top priority, so yes, you absolutely should tell that hot dude at the bar every single one of your poop jokes, winking the whole time like a flirt-crazed maniac, of course.
  5. Your life revolves around you and you alone. With your interest in being single non-existent, you’re excited to focus on you. You don’t care about how you look in your Tinder profile, you’re completely indifferent to whether some guy texts you back, and oh, look! United Airlines is having a sale on flights to the Caribbean! You’ve been needing a reason to get out of town.
  6. You no longer make excuses for being single. There was probably a time when you were single that you made excuses for it, both to yourself and those around you. But now that you’ve stopped caring, you no longer feel that need to made excuses. Why are you single? Because you are! There’s no dark, deep-rooted secret as to why and you being single doesn’t say anything about you – well, except for the fact that you just don’t have a partner. No mind-blowing riddles to solve there; it’s just how it is and who cares?
  7. You feel really, REALLY free. One of the best parts about that moment when you stop caring about something, no matter what it is, is that you feel a level of freedom. Of course, that intensity level varies depending on what you’ve stopped caring about, but I do think that when you stop caring about being single, we’re looking at a heavy level of intensity — happy intensity — surging through our bodies. An emotional weight has been lifted and it’s hard to feel anything but free.
  8. You realize you’re killing it being single. What’s the most amazing thing that happens when you stop caring about being single? (Besides the awesome feeling of freedom, of course.) Realizing that you’re killing it being single. It’s like you were made for this single thing! This doesn’t mean you’re not made to be in a relationship, too, but the way you embrace being single is proof that you’ve got this single thing by the ovaries so there’s no need to care about it anymore.
Amanda is a writer who divides her time between NYC and Paris. She's a regular contributor to Bustle, Glamour, Mic, and Livingly. Other bylines include: Harper's Bazaar, YourTango, The Atlantic, Forbes, YouBeauty, Huffington Post, The Frisky, and BlackBook.