We Could Have Been Amazing Together, But You Didn’t Even Try

When we met, I immediately started envisioning a potential future with you. You were smart, funny, handsome and seemed to be into me too, so things were off to a good start. Unfortunately, before we really even had a chance at anything real, you screwed me over and left me hanging without explanation. WTF?

  1. You were my type in every possible way and I thought that was enough. I’m sorry to say that I remember the day we first met. I was sitting around with some friend and you waltzed over with a girl I knew. It wasn’t love at first sight; it wasn’t even lust at first sight, but I could tell you were my type. When I found out you were single, my interest was piqued even more, so I decided to go for it.
  2. The mutual friends who introduced us didn’t warn me about you, but I wish they would have. This is the point where I blame our mutual friend, not you. She should have sat me TF down and told me to run as fast as I could away from your ass. Instead, she hyped you up, saying what a nice, sweet, misunderstood guy you were. I took her at her word. Turns out, I think she’s the one who really misunderstood you.
  3. You seemed like a genuinely nice guy, and that was enough for me. Okay, I’ll admit it. You seemed smart, friendly, and sweet when we met the second time. We were in a bar and you just so happened to be there too. Yeah, we were both pretty wasted, but I remember us sitting on a sofa, chit-chatting for what might have been hours. You seemed different from all the other guys I’d met and I liked you even more because of it.
  4. We hit it off from the beginning and I wasn’t the only one to notice our chemistry. I feel dumb even writing this down because that means admitting it to myself, but the reason I liked you was because you seemed honest AF about liking me too. You were upfront about being single for what seemed like forever (now, I see why!) and you talked candidly about what you wanted and needed in a relationship. It was refreshing and the chemistry between us during our conversations was palpable. Now, it seems like it was all a lie.
  5. I was wary of getting with you from the start but I decided to give you a chance. Now, I’m not as naive as I seem. I knew from the start that this was a bad idea. I could see it coming. Dating friends of friends usually just means losing your social group. I knew that, so it’s not like I was rushing to get with you. I took things slow and wasn’t even sure that we should take things further. I wasn’t looking to lock you down into an official relationship because of my reservations, and thank goodness for that.
  6. You continually reassured me that you could be trusted. You saw my hesitation and used it to your advantage. You played the nice guy game and told me it was all fine, that you could be trusted and wouldn’t treat me the way other guys had. I thought at the time it was really big of you (and kind of romantic) to come out and state your intentions and values so plainly, but they weren’t true anyway.
  7. I’m a fool because I believed you. Hindsight is 20/20, so I can see now that I was an idiot. I lapped up all the BS you spewed out. Perhaps I just wanted to believe that there are some nice guys out there. Maybe I needed to think that was true… just for a little bit. I’m a fool but at least I admit when I’m wrong.
  8. We started casually dating but you never wanted to take things further. We went on actual dates that went well. We met up often, sat around and talked for hours and really enjoyed each other’s company (or so it seemed to me at the time). The pace suited me — nice and slow. Little did I know that once you’d got what you wanted, you would be gone for good.
  9. I held out hope that a real relationship was just around the corner, but it never came. The more I saw you, the more I thought that we might actually have something here, especially since whenever the topic came up, you seemed totally into it. You let me believe it by continuing to see me and contact me. I would cancel plans to see you and make an effort, but to you, I was just a backup plan.
  10. In the end, you were only stringing me along. When I asked if you would commit, you shot me down. No mercy. No BS. You suddenly decided that we were “just friends”, but I don’t usually sleep with my friends. I’m glad I found out what your real motives were — you wanted to get laid and didn’t care about anything else. I just wish you’d had the courtesy to let me know a little sooner.
Charlotte is a freelance writer who's addicted to binge-watching TV, drinking far too much coffee, and writing articles.