We all have different types of friends in our social networks, with whom we have varying degrees of connection. There are the party friends, the hometown friends, the college friends, the work friends, etc. People are placed in our lives for a reason and often times, friends come and go. But the true ones, the soul mates, will stay with us forever. A lot of friends are solid, but there are differences between good ones and great ones. Which one are you?
- A good friend is there for the good times; a great friend is there for the bad. Just like any relationship, one of the easiest ways to tell who our true friends are is by seeing who sticks by your side when things come crashing down. The great friends are the ones that are there for us even when we’re not ourselves or when we’re hurt and feeling alone or when we’re not even interested in having fun. The great friends are just always there.
- A good friend gets drunk with you; a great friend cleans up the mess. Like any party friend, a good friend is there to hand you the bottle and act like completely drunk idiots together. Then after that night, you don’t hear from them again until the drinking outing. A great friend shelters you for the night and immediately calls you the next day to make sure you’re still conscious.
- A good friend tells you when you look pretty; a great friend tells you when you look straight up ugly. Our great friends will always let us know when our hair looks weird or if we made a complete judgment error in wardrobe choice because they don’t want us to look bad. Good friends will just tell us when we look cute.
- A good friend avoids hurting your feelings; a great friend tells you the harsh truth. When we come to our friends for advice, we expect them to be brutally honest because we trust their opinion. Good friends will omit the truth or beat around the bush because they don’t want to hurt our feelings. Great friends will tell us the harsh truth like if they don’t like the guy we are dating or if they think we’re making a silly decision. They tell us because they care and they are only looking out for our best interest.
- A good friend asks what’s wrong; a great friend just knows. A good friend doesn’t know your underlying problems. They don’t know what’s really bothering you and they can’t get a hold of what’s wrong. A great friend knows inner workings and all your dark secrets. They can tell when something is wrong even without asking you and when it comes to your personal life, they never miss a beat.
- A good friend is too busy to make plans; a great friend always has time. Good friends are always “too busy” for you when you need them. Great friends will carve out time specifically for you. Great friends will mark their calendars and count down the days to see you because they know it’s important.
- A good friend is only in your life for a certain period of time, a great friend never leaves. In life, we can’t hold onto everyone we meet. Not everyone is meant to be in your life forever, and that’s okay. Sometimes, they are there because we need them during that time. But, the great friends will never leave no matter how much time has passed. They’re your true soul mates.