Sometimes we want to believe something so badly that we let our imaginations run wild. You may really like him and find it easy to picture a future together, but that doesn’t mean he feels the same. Here are some signs that you might be alone in your so-called relationship:
- You assume you’re exclusive. Don’t change your relationship status just yet. In this day and age, you should never just assume you’re in an exclusive relationship. Even if he really likes you, that won’t necessarily prevent him from dating around until he knows he has to. Have the conversation. It may sound painful, but it pales in comparison to running into him at a restaurant while he’s on a date with another girl.
- You ignore red flags. While giving your partner the benefit of the doubt is a sign of a healthy relationship, it can be detrimental to those in the early stages of a “will we or won’t we?” flirtation. Unless his actions clearly show that he’s interested in something serious, keep your eyes open for red flags and don’t jump to any conclusions or you could end up screwing yourself over.
- You hear only what you want to hear. From the outside, a lot of what he says seems questionable, but you choose to ignore that and focus on twisting his more ambiguous statements into something sweet or romantic. You praise yourself on being able to “read between the lines” and distinguish when his words have secret meaning; but in reality, you’re probably just being delusional.
- You think an invitation is a date. So he asked you to go to a party or to get a cup of coffee. So? Those are also things you do with friends. Don’t twist invitations into dates just because you want them to be. If you’re not sure, ask! Yes, grow a pair and ask. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to know what you’re getting yourself into ahead of time. If this freaks him out, then he’s probably too immature for you anyways.
- You put in all the effort. Men are more than happy to have a swarm of admirers at all times, but just because he replies to your texts and occasionally accepts your invitations, doesn’t mean he’s your boyfriend. At the end of the day, if he treats you like an afterthought, don’t make him a priority.
- You deny his other flirtations. I admire your confidence, I really do, but assuming that you’re his favorite when he’s flirting with several other women is pretty unrealistic. Don’t disregard his behavior towards other women or stories you’ve heard about him from others.
- You can’t touch him in public. Many girls have fallen for the “I’m just a private guy” facade when being ignored in public. If a man doesn’t introduce you at a party as his girlfriend or at least interact with you in an intimate way that his friends can witness, then he’s probably just worried you’ll be a cock block. If he acts like you’re just friends, then you are.
- You blow his nice gestures out of proportion. If he opens the door for you, helps you with your coat or pulls out your chair, he might be just gentleman (or a player). The only gesture that matters is the one requiring his lips to form the words “I want to be exclusive.”