“Bad Timing” Is Just An Excuse—If He Likes You, Nothing Will Stop Him

Timing may be one of the most important factors in the success of a relationship, but it’s not necessarily a dealbreaker. After all, it doesn’t matter what’s going on in your life—if you want to make things work, you will. If the guy you’ve been seeing blows you off with the “bad timing” excuse, the truth is he just doesn’t want to try.

  1. There’s no such thing as perfect timing. There will always be outside factors that make being in a relationship with someone more difficult. There might be some long-distance involved, late work hours, or a number of different things currently going on that make the timing of the relationship less than ideal.
  2. “Bad timing” is another way of saying “I’m not really into you.” Guys use the excuse of “bad timing” when they’re not interested in you or they don’t want to put in the effort when it comes to a relationship, thinking that blaming it on whatever phase of life they’re apparently in is less hurtful than being truthful (and maybe sometimes it is). The problem with this, however, can make a guy’s true feelings super unclear and give false hope to the women they use this excuse on.
  3. There’s no such thing as “good timing.” Sure, you might be super busy or stressed but if you like someone and want the relationship to work, they won’t be reasons to pump the breaks. Even when your life is crazy, the right relationship will be your rock or the calm in the middle of the storm. Bad timing won’t be an issue unless he’s not into you or the idea of a relationship.
  4. When a guy is into you, nothing will get in his way. Sometimes, it’s nothing to do with you and more to do with him being emotionally unavailable. It could be a combination of the two, to be honest. Whatever the reason, if he was ready for the relationship and super into you, there’s nothing that would stop him from making it work. If he says that it’s just a bad time for him, he really means he’s not feeling putting in the effort necessary to make the relationship work.
  5. Relationships don’t need perfect conditions, you just need to understand and accept things as they are. It’s almost unheard of for anyone to have the “perfect timing” to begin a new relationship, much less two people at the exact same time when they meet each other. That’s okay, though—perfect timing doesn’t really exist, just like bad timing doesn’t. If a guy makes excuses for why the relationship won’t work because there’s too much else going on, he really doesn’t want to try to make it work or understand normal life, which is hectic and sometimes a little crazy.
  6. Bad timing is really only a legitimate excuse when you’re young. Sometimes it’s not someone’s physical age either, but rather what age they’re at mentally. When you’re young, you’re not mature enough yet to know what you want and what you don’t, and so you may let the person of your dreams pass you by. This is an example of bad timing. As you mature and grow up, bad timing for the right relationship stops existing.
  7. Are you listening to what he’s actually saying? Is he saying that the timing is wrong to make a relationship work or is he saying that the timing is wrong to make a relationship work with you? Sometimes, guys are unclear and confusing with the way they word things, but more often than not, they’re clear and we just don’t want to hear what they’re really saying.
  8. Bad timing is based on perspective alone. If you’re ready for a relationship and interested in the person whom you’ve met, the timing will only be bad in the relationship if you look at it that way. If he’s looking at the circumstances in his life and saying that they’re the reasons it’s a bad time for him to be in a relationship, he’s looking at them from a limiting perspective, but that’s probably because he isn’t interested in you.
  9. Are there underlying factors that could be the reason he isn’t ready to try in a relationship? It’s possible he’s letting his past affect his present too much and using bad timing as an excuse for really being afraid to try in a relationship. For example, if he got his heart broken in his last relationship, was cheated on, or a number of other traumatic and painful things that can happen in a relationship, he may simply be trying to protect his heart by claiming bad timing (and he might even fully convince himself and honestly believe that the timing is wrong too).
Kerry is a freelance writer from Boston, Massachusetts who now lives in the Sunshine State with the love of her life and her 15 month old daughter. She writes frequently about her personal experiences (find more of her work on www.followmetogetlost.wordpress.com). She has an Etsy shop with cute items: https://www.etsy.com/shop/FollowMeToGetLostWhen she's not writing, she loves to spend time outside, at the beach, and with her family.