Forget about the miracle workout or learning the perfect contour—if you really want to be the hottest girl on the planet, it’s actually pretty simple and has nothing to do with physical appearance. If you follow these steps, you’ll be irresistible on the inside and out.
- Learn to love yourself. The sexiest women are the ones who know how amazing they are. Men gravitate towards women who know their own power and what makes them beautiful, and even if you aren’t looking for a man, you’ll be practically irresistible to everyone you meet. You’ve probably heard it a thousand times but it’s true: we accept the love we think we deserve, so why not get in touch with who you really are and see how badass and beautiful you really are, and accept love accordingly?
- Don’t try to make everyone happy. It’s impossible to make everyone happy, so why bother? It’s a guaranteed way of making yourself feel frustrated and inadequate. Why not just focus on yourself first and pull everyone else into your happy orbit? Studies show that happiness is actually contagious, and what could be hotter than a girl who makes everyone around her happier?
- Wear your heart on your sleeve. It’s so easy to miss opportunities simply because you’ve put up walls to protect yourself. Falling in love can really suck, especially when the other person doesn’t love you back in the way you want them to, but the more open you are about how you feel, the more people are likely to respond how you want them to. Plus, being open with your passionate side is really sexy. Guys love girls who aren’t afraid to show a little passion.
- Be honest with yourself. There’s a lot of peer pressure out there to be and do certain things, like get married before you’re 30 and go to spin class, and sometimes it’s difficult to separate these things from what you actually want to do. Taking the time to really identify who you are and what you aspire to do in life makes you not only super attractive (self-knowledge is incredibly alluring) but it’ll also make you a lot more secure in what you want out of other people.
- Flaunt your intelligence like you flaunt your boobs. In other words, your intelligence is hot AF and has a very strong effect on people, so why not wear it proudly? Strong men who will value you are crazy about smart women. The guys who want you to just be cute and without any opinions are jealous and insecure and definitely not worthy of you.
- Don’t waste time on guys who don’t deserve you. How much time have you spent with guys who just aren’t worthy of you? There is no way you’ll ever be happy if you continue to settle for relationships that simply aren’t good enough. Instead of spending time trying to make unworthy relationships fulfilling, use that time to find someone who deserves you. Sexy women know their worth and don’t settle for anything less.
- Be bold AF. There’s no time to be overly polite or considerate. Being assertive and decisive will not only save you a ton of time, but it will always attract the attention of pretty much everyone, in the best way possible. Take healthy risks, ask for what you need, and don’t apologize for putting yourself out there. No one will be able to resist you.
- Give zero fucks about what people think of you. People are always going to judge, no matter what you do, so why not ignore any and all outside opinions? There’s nothing hotter than confidence. Confidence shows that you know your worth and your power, and by ignoring people who try to criticize or judge you, you instantly rob them of whatever power they had over you.
- Don’t hide your ambition. Ambition is a huge turn-on for guys who are secure in themselves. A woman who has dreams and a passion for something that’s all her own is incredibly seductive, and it also means you’ve got excellent priorities and are probably better at balancing your life than most people.
- Be selfish. Okay, not all the time, but it’s definitely worth being selfish on a semi-regular basis. A lot of women put everyone before themselves, which just makes us unhappy and resentful in the long run. Men always put themselves first, so they don’t need us to help them. It’s okay to take care of yourself first. In fact, it’s sexy as hell to be around a woman who knows what she wants and doesn’t apologize for it or ask permission to get it.
- Say no to things you don’t want to do. Seems obvious, right? But think about it—when was the last time you said yes to something you didn’t want to do? If you’re like most women, the answer is probably yesterday or even a few minutes ago. Saying no will show you that it’s OK to refuse people sometimes and that standing up for yourself and setting boundaries will make you feel as powerful as you actually are. Nothing’s hotter than a woman who knows her own mind and isn’t afraid of standing up for herself.