11 Behaviors That Turn Guys Off Immediately No Matter How Attractive You Are

You’re smart, funny, and really hot, but don’t think you can get away with anything in dating. You might be guilty of some of the following behaviors that are guaranteed to make the guy go AWOL instead of ask you on another date. After all, physical attractiveness will only get you so far – you need to have the goods to back it up.

  1. You silly yourself down. Woah, this behavior is so 1998! You should never feel that you have to make yourself seem  silly just to attract a guy, make him laugh, or make him want to protect you. Guys want women who can take care of themselves and who know they’re smart. It’s sexy. You’re incredibly intelligent – don’t be afraid to show it.
  2. You’re full of yourself. If you know you’re hot stuff and it’s gone to your pretty head, it could end up pushing him away instead of drawing him closer. No one wants to date someone who’s overconfident and arrogant or who’d rather spend all night staring at their reflection in the cutlery. There’s a thin line between confidence and arrogance – know where it is and don’t cross it.
  3. You’re quick to be defensive. If you’re a little jaded about dating, it could be a good idea to take a bit of time to sort out your feelings before you jump back into the game. Otherwise, you might be a little too defensive, eager to stay on guard so another guy doesn’t hurt you. That will just push the good guys away or make them afraid of you.
  4. You’re more into your phone than him. There’s nothing worse than being on a date with someone who’s showing you the top of their head all night because they’re so busy staring down at their phone. It’s not on. It’s not pretty. It’s damn rude. Don’t do it. Put your phone away and pay attention to the man in front of you.
  5. You try to make him jealous. While you might think making a guy a little jealous is a great way to keep him interested, it will very likely have the opposite effect. So, think twice before you flirt with the waiter. Chances are your date will see right through it and wonder what kind of game you’re trying to play.
  6. You’re a “yes” woman. When you meet someone new, it’s only natural to want to spend a lot of time with him, but be careful about saying yes to everything he suggests as he’ll start to think you’re trying to become his clone to impress him. There’s nothing attractive about that. He’d much rather see you for who you really are.
  7. You’re playing too hard to get. While some playing hard to get is really just about actively not chasing a guy so he can put in some effort and see your worth, going over the top with it can cause you to get thrown out of the game. He’ll think you’re too distant or simply not interested, so be careful about avoiding his calls or giving him the cold shoulder.
  8. You’re a velcro girlfriend. If you’ve just started dating him and you’re already getting angry with him about why he doesn’t answer your texts within an hour of receiving them, he’s going to have lots of warning bells going off in his head. Who wouldn’t? He’s either going to think you’re nuts, clingy, desperate, or you’ve been waiting for someone to date instead of living your life.
  9. You’re a smotherer. Maybe you’re a nurturing, warm person who’s known for taking care of those around you. That’s awesome. It’s not awesome if you’re smothering him. For example, telling him that he needs to wear a jacket ’cause it’s cold outside or checking up on him to see if he’s eaten. That’s just creepy! He doesn’t need or want another mother.
  10. You don’t give a straight answer. Many guys I’ve known have become so annoyed at women who don’t answer their questions. If a guy asks you where you’d like to go for dinner or what movie you’d like to watch, don’t say you don’t know or they can choose. Guys are asking because they want you to say what’s on your mind and what you want, otherwise, it’s like they have to take the lead on everything.
  11. You’re blabbing to your girlfriends. If the new guy you’re dating meets your friends and finds out through them that you’ve been blabbing about him, it will make his skin go cold. He shouldn’t feel like you’re telling them all about his traits, secrets, and other things he’s confided in you. It spells immaturity and drama, two things that no man of quality is gonna stick around to deal with.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.