Being An Independent Woman Will Help You Find Real Love, So Keep Doing You

Being An Independent Woman Will Help You Find Real Love, So Keep Doing You ©iStock/teksomolika

Love can be unpredictable. You never know when and where you’re going to meet the right person, so worrying about it is a waste of time. All you can do is live your life to the fullest and be the best version of yourself so you’ll attract the right people. Guys like a woman who knows what she wants and can take care of herself, so as long as you’ve got your act together, love will find its way to you. All you have to do is have faith. Here’s why independent woman stand a better chance of finding real, lasting love:

  1. You won’t settle for less. Sure, there are a lot of almost relationship-adjacent things we all go through along the way, but an independent woman would never force those relationships into more than they’re meant to be because she knows there’s something better out there and she’s willing to wait for it.
  2. You’ll attract guys who like strong women. You know you could never end up with a guy who couldn’t handle a strong woman, and luckily those guys don’t even bother coming near you anyway. You’re independent and proud of it, which is like a screening system you don’t even have to put any work into.
  3. You’ll be satisfied with your life whether you find love or not. Since you’re more focused on making yourself happy, you’ll never be reliant on someone else to do it for you. That means when you do find the perfect person, it’ll be a bonus, not something you were desperately searching for.
  4. You’re a complete person all on your own. Some people refer to their significant other as their “other half”, but you’re not comfortable defining yourself based on your relationship status. You’re still complete when you’re alone, and you want someone who’s the same — he doesn’t need anyone to complete them.
  5. You’d never stay with someone for the wrong reasons. There comes a point where a lot of couples decide it’s a lot easier to stay together even when it’s not working. By doing that, they’re holding themselves back from finding real love because they’re afraid to be alone. But you’d truly rather be single than in a bad relationship.
  6. You won’t waste time on the wrong guys. While other people are out there dating the same type of guy over and over again, you already know what you want. You have better things to do than repeat your past mistakes, and you can probably spot a guy who’s all wrong for you before he even opens his mouth.
  7. You won’t compromise who you are for anyone. Since you’ve spent a lot of time figuring out who you are and what you want, there’s no way you’re going to pretend to be anyone else. People either like you or they don’t, and you have no intention of chasing someone who doesn’t show any interest. 
  8. You’ll meet more people because you know how to put yourself out there. Independent women who are comfortable being single have probably done a lot of things solo. You’re fine having dinner alone, you’ll go to weddings without a date, and you’ll even travel alone if you want to. Since you’ve never had anyone to rely on but yourself, your social skills will be bar none.
  9. You aren’t afraid of being alone. You even prefer it a lot of the time. So when you finally decide to put some effort into a relationship it will be for the best reason— you feel a real connection. If you didn’t, you’d just continue on living the fabulous single life you’re accustomed to.
  10. Guys like women who have their own lives. Most guys like having time away from their girlfriends. You’ll be infinitely more intriguing to him if you have interests and goals that have nothing to do with him. Think about it— dating someone with no life of their own is like having a conversation with someone who communicates exclusively in one-word answers. Frustrating as hell.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to, contributes regularly to, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.