Even if you haven’t had any luck in your love life, getting down on yourself, men, or the dating world at large isn’t going to change that. Sometimes, your lack of luck in love is less about other people and more about your own behavior. Drop the cynicism and you might just see a change.
- Find some positivity. If you’re constantly negative about love, then nothing positive is going to happen in that department. You can’t go into every situation thinking it’s doomed. Find the silver linings of your past and look at the bright side of your future, because Mr. Right is still to come.
- Tally up the good in your life. Everyone has something worthwhile in their life. Whether you have an amazing job, incredible best friends, or a wonderfully loving family, there’s always something worth living for.
- Pursue other ventures. As an independent woman, your love life cannot be your top priority. Start a hobby, invest in your work, and make your friendships last a lifetime. Your attitude needs to be that you want a man, but you don’t need one — that’s called desperation and it’s not pretty.
- Forget the past. The man who broke your heart doesn’t deserve space in your brain. He may have your past, but he doesn’t have your future. You can’t spend your life mourning your breakup and wallowing in self-pity. You have to forgive him and then forget him so you can move on to someone better.
- Fake a good time. No one wants to hang out with a constant source of negativity. It’s OK to spend the night in if you’re just not feeling it every once in a while, but sometimes you need to just go out and fake a good time until you’re actually having one. If you trick others into thinking your night out is blast, you may just trick yourself too, and end up having an amazing time.
- Get over your generalizations. Men aren’t broken down into pigs and dogs. Not every guy is a player, womanizer, or general heartbreaker. There are good men out there and they deserve some recognition, so stop judging a guy before you even know him. Don’t assume he’ll break your heart, because while the majority might be wrong for you, there is at least one guy out there that’s right.
- Accept that you could live life alone. You may not want to, but you could. Once you accept this notion, it’s a lot easier to keep yourself from dwelling on your status as a single lady. You never want to make yourself dependent on a man. Strive to be an independent woman who just so happens to have love in her life.
- Never give up. Prepare for the worst, but hope for the best. When you’re down in the dirt wondering if the one for you even exists, don’t give up. He’s out there — you just haven’t met him yet, and when you do, you need to be ready, not stuffing your face with good old Ben & Jerry because you gave up too soon.
