Being A Natural Flirt Is Fun, But It Can Land You In Trouble

Being a natural flirt has its perks, but most of the time, it’s a nightmare. On one hand, it helps you to easily connect with people, but if you’re not careful, you might end up with more enemies than friends. If you’re a woman who can’t help but flirt with everyone you meet, you’ve probably experienced these difficulties:

  1. Your boyfriend gets jealous… a lot. At first he thought it was cute, but now it’s getting a little out of hand. If he sees you graze your guy friend’s hand one more time, he’s gonna blow. Expect him to bring up his jealous feelings a lot. In fact, he might even break up with you over it.
  2. Girls protect their boyfriends from you. You notice that girls will literally hold on to their boyfriends when you’re around. They can tell you’re a huge flirt and want to make sure you know he’s taken. You know you’re harmless, but all they can see is a homewrecker.
  3. Everyone thinks you have a crush on them. You flirt with everything that moves. Whether they look like Brad Pitt or a garden gnome is irrelevant — anyone is fair game. This can cause people to think you’re crushing on them, when all you were doing is flirting for sport.
  4. You can start to feel like a dancing monkey When you’re a good flirt, people love being around you. They kind of see you as a never-ending supply of positive emotions. You’re giving out validation by the handful, and people are practically lining up to get some. This can be great for your social life, but after a while, you start to feel like people only want to hang out with you for the positive reinforcement you so freely give them.
  5. People assume you’re promiscuous. This is probably the worst thing of all. When you’re a girl who flirts a lot, people love to assume that you sleep around. Whether this is true or not makes no difference, and it’s no one’s business anyway. But it still sucks to have people making assumptions about your sex life based on the fact that you’re a bit flirty.
  6. Guys become obsessed with you. When you’re as charming as you are, you tend to gather “fans”… and they’re not always the kind you want. These guys might not be used to getting attention from girls, so when you come along, they think they’ve found their soulmate. Things can get creepy really fast, but no worries — you’re used to handling these situations by now.
  7. You have at least one guy friend who seemed to fall off the face of the Earth. Does this sound familiar at all to you? Your guy friend finds a girl he likes and gets into a relationship… and then you never see him again. This isn’t because he’s forgotten about you; his girlfriend has simply banned him from seeing you. Harsh.
  8. Girls will randomly hate you. Do you ever get sketchy vibes out of the blue from girls you literally just met? You can’t even pinpoint why they don’t like you — you just know that they 100 percent do NOT want to be your friend. You tend to bring out people’s jealous sides, and the result isn’t always pretty.
  9. Guys get intimidated by how forward you are. Mega-flirts tend to have that go-getter personality. When you see someone you like, you go for it. However, sometimes it blows up in your face. You don’t MEAN to come off as too “forward” or “dominant”, but that’s kind of like your automatic setting. It can be really hard to tone it down.
  10. It can get lonely AF. You feel the most alive when you’re free to express your inner seductress, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But let’s be real for a second: it’s hard AF to find someone who’s secure enough to be with someone like you. You’re not willing to tone yourself down just because your partner is insecure. You’ll always be a huge flirt, and you wouldn’t change it even if you could.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.