Being Interested In Him Is A Good Thing, So You Don’t Have To Feel Bad About It

Playing hard to get in the dating world to get a guy to like you is a game that just doesn’t make sense to me. In my mind, if someone’s acting like they don’t like you, they probably don’t. This strategy’s major popularity suggests that it actually works, but in general, it’s more likely to backfire than it is to lead to a love connection. Basically, you should never worry about seeming too interested in someone. If you like him, let him know, end of.

  1. Relationships are built on honesty. If you’re scared some guy is going to think you’re too into him if you respond to his texts super fast, you’re always available on Friday nights for your dates, and you laugh at all his jokes, then why are you even dating? Relationships need honesty to function but also to grow. Everything starts with admitting you’re interested.
  2. Everyone puts their heart on the line at some point. To those of us actively dating, the fact that guys sometimes get shy and nervous and don’t make the first move is not exactly breaking news. You should definitely make the first move if you like him. If he feels the same way, you’ll both be super glad that you told him. If he doesn’t, then at least you know and don’t have to stare longingly at your iPhone for days. We’ve all been rejected and you never know until you try.
  3. You want someone to act like they’re into you. If you ever think about playing hard to get, just think how you feel when a guy does that to you. Not so awesome, right? When we daydream about love, we want sweet moments and romantic gestures and declarations of how awesome we are. We don’t want a guy who takes three days to call and can’t put any effort into planning dates. So if you like someone, don’t be afraid to show it, and hopefully they’ll reciprocate.
  4. You don’t want to waste any time. We’ve all settled or spent too many months or years in dead-end relationships. You’re only here for a limited time so get vulnerable and put yourself out there. The time you waste wondering if you appear too interested is time you could be spending with this amazing new person.
  5. Games are for kids. Seriously. Start acting the so-called adult that you actually are and throw yourself into your new romance. It’s not weird, it’s not desperate, it’s not coming on too strong. It’s easy to forget in the age of hook-ups but people have been forming relationships and getting serious forever. If you want a true relationship, chances are you’re not going to get it by playing games.
  6. You could miss out. Sure, the super cocky bros out there love to have a bunch of girls on speed dial at any given moment and love to keep you guessing. But the nice guys, the ones worth calling your boyfriend? They’re going to believe you if you pretend to not be interested, and you could miss out on the best person you’ve ever met. Don’t do it.
  7. Soon your friends will wish you had stayed silent. You know what I’m talking about – those couple selfies, the gushing Facebook birthday wishes, the Instagrams of the adorable brunch the two of you just made. You might as well get used to declaring your interest in this guy. Soon you’ll be shouting it from the (social media) rooftops.
  8. Hate turns into love in rom-coms only. This is a fact I am 100 percent sure of.
  9. Nothing is easy. Think about how hard it is to maintain your friendships as you get older and everyone’s schedules get super crammed with work. Think about how exhausting it is to have a successful career. Think about how hard it is to convince yourself to make a kale salad instead of ordering pizza. Life is pretty tough sometimes, and so of course it’s pretty difficult to show someone that you think they’re worth dating. It’s worth it in the end, though. I’m sure of that, too.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.