Why Even The Best Boyfriend Could Never Replace Your BFFs

Why Even The Best Boyfriend Could Never Replace Your BFFs ©iStock/wundervisuals

Falling in love is an amazing experience, but that doesn’t mean it has to take over your entire life. No matter how much you love your boyfriend and how perfect he is for you in every way, he’ll never be able to replace your BFFs for these 8 reasons:

  1. They help you maintain your independence. Just because you want to spend every waking minute with him doesn’t mean he wants to do the same with you. He had a life before he met you and he’s probably still going to want to have those video game marathons, pick up basketball games and nights out with his friends. He certainly doesn’t expect you to clear your schedule for him (if he does, you should probably run far away while you still can).
  2. Your boyfriend gets on your nerves when you spend too much time together — your BFFs don’t. When you first start dating it’s like you can’t get enough of each other and you’ll never get tired of having him around. But as you start to settle into a routine, you’ll realize it’s not the end of the world if you don’t see him every single day. There’s plenty of time to have friends and time to yourself and still maintain a close, fulfilling relationship.
  3. Sometimes you need someone to talk to… about him. It’s inevitable — there are going to be times when he absolutely infuriates you. And those times are a perfect example of when you need your friends. Rather than stew in your own anger until you explode, you’ll be able to vent over brunch and hopefully they’ll be able to talk you off the ledge.
  4. Your BFFs know who you are all on your own. Your best friends have probably been around through various stages of your life, so they know you almost as well as you know yourself. Sure, you can always tell your boyfriend the stories of your wild college days, but your friends were actually right there with you, so it’s a lot more fun to reminisce with them than a guy who can’t even imagine you being drunk enough to dance on a table.
  5. They can be objective when you can’t. Sometimes you’re too close to the problem to see it clearly, especially in a relationship. Being able to talk things through with people you trust can help you see things from another perspective, and a lot of the time that makes all the difference.
  6. Most relationships will end at some point, while a good friendship could last a lifetime. Unless you’re the type that goes through besties like bottles of contact solution, your closest friends are most likely in it for the long haul. You’ll date and forget tons of guys so neglecting a good friend for the dude of the moment is just illogical– in a few months he’ll be gone, but your friends will always be there (as long as you’re good to them).
  7. Isolating yourself is dangerous in more ways than one. Putting yourself in a situation where you only have your boyfriend to rely on is guaranteed to backfire. Even if he’s a great guy, the pressure of being your one and only could have him retreating when you need him the most. Not to mention, if you know you have no one else, breaking up with him– even when you know you have to– is going to be a whole lot harder.
  8. Sometimes you need another girl’s opinion. He might try to give his opinion on what shoes go best with the dress you bought for your brother’s wedding, but in the end, he’s still a guy. He probably doesn’t care what shoes you wear as long you get out the door on time. Sending multiple shoe selfies to your friends is the only way to solve this problem, but if no one responds, you’ll be really outta luck.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.