My Best Friend Turned Into A Bridezilla When She Got Engaged And It Ruined Our Friendship

I was so excited for my best friend when she announced that she was engaged, but things quickly went downhill from there. This bridezilla took things so far that it ended our friendship even though we’d been besties for most of our lives. Here’s what happened.

  1. I didn’t realize weddings could change people. I’d known my best friend since we were six years old. We used to imagine being each other’s bridesmaids at our future weddings and would even daydream about marrying brothers. I was excited when she asked me to be one of her bridesmaids, but when her wedding planning began, she showed me that it was going to be a nightmare instead of a dream come true.
  2. I know she was stressed, but… I know that planning a wedding can be very stressful, but she was changing towards me in ways that just didn’t seem fair. For example, she was always snappy with me and when I told her to calm down because she was getting ready to bite the head off her caterer, she told me I had no clue what she was going through because I’d never get married. To make matters worse, she said this in front of a room full of people. WTF?
  3. She ditched her single friends. She was the first woman in our social circle to get married and it seemed to make her think she was better than the rest of us. When she announced her engagement and told us how she was already planning her wedding, it was like she disappeared off the face of the earth. She never had time to see us anymore. Whenever we asked her why she couldn’t meet her for drinks, she’d use the “wedding planning” excuse. We knew she was planning an extravagant wedding, but come on.
  4. She became controlling. Looking back, I wish she never asked me to be her bridesmaid because it was an absolute nightmare. When she organized for us to go to dress fittings, she spent most of the time complaining that we weren’t fitting in the smallest dresses she could find, and she even blamed me for having a skin tone that didn’t complement the ivory dress she had her eye on. Geez.
  5. She singled me out. My bestie made me pay for my own bridesmaid dress and makeup on the day of the wedding and I didn’t argue because I thought that was just what we had to do as her bridesmaids. I didn’t want to ask her about it and cause drama. Later, however, I discovered that she paid for all the other bridesmaids. She was singling me out and I wasn’t sure why.
  6. I hated being around her. This was my best friend in the entire world, and yet I couldn’t bear to be in her presence when she was going through her bridezilla phase. It was such a lonely time because I felt like I was losing her. I couldn’t believe that she was being such a bitch to me.
  7. She wrecked our friendship. It wasn’t just her insults that scarred me, but also how she mistreated me and the rest of her bridesmaids. For example, on her wedding day, she basically made us her slaves. She was acting like such a drama queen, making us blow her nails dry and strap on her shoes. She even made me dye my hair at the last minute because she didn’t want any other person with black hair in her bridal party because it would cloud her from view.
  8. I wanted to bounce. It was extremely difficult not to put the dye kit on the vanity and tell her to go to hell before storming out. I knew that I couldn’t do that to her. I knew that her wedding day was special and that she needed us to be there to support her, but staying was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. Thank goodness for tequila shots!
  9. I was at a stranger’s wedding. When I watched my so-called bestie prance around on her wedding day and shout at people who weren’t doing what she wanted, myself included, I felt like I’d been invited to a stranger’s wedding. How was I supposed to ever see her in the same way again?
  10. When I said goodbye, I meant it. At the end of her wedding, she came over to me and was super sweet. It was like she was back to her normal self, but I knew it was all an act. She got what she’d wanted — a fantastic wedding — and she didn’t care about anything else. She promised we’d get together when she returned from her honeymoon in Bali, and although I smiled and agreed we’d have a fantastic time, when I said goodbye to her at her wedding, I knew I’d never see her again.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.