Guys Are Great, But Your Best Friends Are Your Real Love Story

Guys Are Great, But Your Best Friends Are Your Real Love Story ©iStock/AleksandarNakic

Whether you’ve been happily coupled up forever or you’re still searching for the one, you know that friends truly are forever. It’s pretty cool having a built-in support system no matter where you go or what you do. Even if you’re all about a new guy or can’t stop gushing over your new fiancé, you still know it’s your friends that matter the most in your world. Here’s why your best friends are your real love story:

  1. They know you better than anyone else. Sure, your boyfriend knows you (or your future one will get to know you) but it’s just not the same. Your best friends can tell when you’re actually excited about the new guy in your world or if you’re forcing it. They can recommend TV shows because they’ve heard all your rants and raves. They just get you and that’s a really comforting, wonderful thing.
  2. They stick around if it’s real. Friendship and love have one thing in common: if it’s meant to last, it will. Nothing makes you appreciate the friends you have more than when you go through a cruel friendship breakup. It hurts to lose a friend, but you know if you guys were supposed to stay close, you would have. On the upside, you have the rest of your girls and they’re not going anywhere.
  3. They support you unconditionally. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. There are no jealousy issues (if there are, it’s not real friendship) and your friends are so excited about your accomplishments, it’s as if they’re crushing their goals, too.
  4. They let you dream as big as you want. A true friend will always think your dreams and wishes are the best idea that anyone ever had. They’ll be there for the entire ride and smile at every stage of the journey.
  5. They get you through every breakup. Maybe your girlfriends rush over with some ice cream and booze when your latest relationship (or almost one) ends, or they’re just there for some over-the-phone support. Either way, they cheer you on when you send a bad boy on his way or tell a guy off for how he’s treated you. You’ll never get that kind of recognition from anyone else in your life.
  6. They can be a substitute for romantic love. You’re not always so lucky in love, and even if you’re coupled up, you might not be forever. When you’re single, your friends are extra important to you because they’re there to share drinks, dreams and plans. Even when you’re not so single anymore, you remember how they supported you and those memories will last a lifetime.
  7. They see and hear you. You love your boyfriend, but he can’t always understand your reality TV rants or why you just can’t even with your new co-worker. That’s totally OK because you have your BFFs for those kinds of conversations. In a way, your friends help your relationships because you don’t have to annoy your boyfriend with girly talk.
  8. They call you on your crap. You can’t get angry when your best friends tell you they think you’re behaving in a weird way or not following your game plan, because they’ve always got your best interests in mind. While you might be a bit insulted or frustrated at first, you always come around and realize they’re right.
  9. They’re on your side. You can separate a best friend from an acquaintance by their reaction to your good news. If they’re always happy for you and think you’re just the best person to ever have walked the earth (dramatic but that’s okay), they’ve achieved BFF status.
  10. You do the same for them. A true love story is not about the princess pining away for her prince from her ivory tower. It’s about reciprocity and equality. Your best friends are the greatest love story you could ever hope for because you feel the exact same way about them that they do about you. And that’s pretty magical.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.