It’s Better To Be Single Than To Be These 11 Things

Being single can be tough, sure, but it’s not the end of the world and there are many circumstances that can make you grateful to be rolling solo. In fact, it’s much better to be on your own than it is to be these 11 things any day:

  1. An abused woman This is never an OK thing to be. It’s really unfortunate when women become stuck in abusive relationships and feel there’s no way out. There are many ways to be abused; physical isn’t the only one. You can also be emotionally abused as well. The likelihood of it happening when you’re single is much lower than if you were coupled up.
  2. Someone without self-respect There are some women who sleep with people even when they aren’t good for them. They have sex willy-nilly even though they’re harming themselves. This is an example of not having respect for yourself. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with sleeping around if that’s what you want, but the key here is it isn’t really in your best interest but you’re doing it anyway.
  3. A paranoid partner You’re constantly interrogating your partner about where they are, who they’ve been with, and what they were doing. You’re also suspicious of the people in their life because you think that they may be cheating. Maybe you’re even driving yourself crazy because of how paranoid you are. This is no way to live and if you’re single at least you’re exempt from being this craziness.
  4. Codependent Codependency isn’t pretty. You and your partner could be absolutely obsessed with each other, spending every waking minute together. You could also have crazy unrealistic expectations like expecting your partner to drop whatever they’re doing at any time. Codependency isn’t something you want to be involved with. It’s sad and even borderline scary. It also takes two to tango, so you’d be picking partners with codependent tendencies themselves.
  5. A snooper Shuffling through items in their room, you’re feverishly looking for your partner’s phone. You can’t wait to get your hands on it to be able to see what they’ve been up to. You’re wildly untrusting and you even get a bit of a thrill when you’re snooping. You don’t make a very good partner because a healthy relationship is built on trust. You don’t have any of that.
  6. Someone who ditches their friends for their partner Your friends haven’t seen you in too long to count. They don’t know what’s going on in your life anymore and they don’t think they’ll see you anytime soon. You’ve steadily become someone who ditches their friends for their partner. You put your partner above all else and it’s cost you some of your closest friendships. You don’t see yourself changing anytime, either.
  7. A stage five clinger You’re someone who has their claws in their partner. You’re absolutely obsessed with your partner and the obsession isn’t really mutual. It’s just you who’s clinging on for dear life, hoping that it never ends. This is a really sad type of person to be because you’re compromising your dignity and you may be in a relationship that isn’t equal.
  8. Wishy-washy You’re one of those people who think they know what they want, but another second has a different idea. You’re always confusing the people that you’re dating and leaving them high and dry because you don’t know what you want. You’re wishy-washy and it is harmful to everyone. It means you have like no chance at a relationship. Instead, you’re stuck with strings of short-lived dating experiences.
  9. A cheater Obviously very troublesome, you’re the kind of person who isn’t faithful to their partner. You think it’s totally fine to cheat on them then come home to them like nothing happened at all. Being single is much better than being this kind of person. It never ends well for someone who cheats. It almost always ends in the other person finding out and lots of hurt feelings all around.
  10. The phone-obsessed partner There isn’t a moment where your phone is absent from your hands. You’re absolutely obsessed with staying constantly plugged in. Be it texting with friends, checking social media, or playing games, you feel like you need your phone. This is a damper on your relationship because you’re rarely giving your partner facetime. Instead, you’re giving them the impression that your phone’s more important.
  11. A fixer Coming in with your toolkit in hand, you’re ready to fix your partner up. In fact, you intentionally choose people to date that you feel like you can repair. You think they’re damaged and that you know the answers to fixing them up. This kind of person is wildly troubling because they miss the whole point of a relationship: loving the other person for who they are.
Ginelle has been writing professionally for more than six years and has a bachelor’s degree in digital marketing & design. Her writing has appeared on Birdie, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha and more. You can follow her on Instagram @ginelletesta, via her Facebook page, or through her website at