Beware Of The Guy Who’s Way Too Charming

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You meet a new guy and he seems positively perfect. He always says the right thing and he showers you with compliments. It’s clear he adores you and you can’t deny that you’re falling for him, but before you get all ooey-gooey thinking you’re in love, consider why you should be wary of a guy who’s a little too charming. Chances are, he’s not what he seems.

  1. Players always talk a good game. Players know charm like the back of their hand and it’s no wonder, considering they’ve had a lot of practice. If his sweet talk comes too easy consider the fact that you’re not the only girl who’s been in the exact same position with the exact same guy. Players are professional heartbreakers, so don’t let his charm fool you into being another one of his casualties.
  2. If his compliment sounds unbelievably sweet, it probably is. If you ever want to win in the game of love, you can’t be naive. If everything he says sounds too good to be true then it probably is. Go with your instinct and remember that overly affectionate guys might just be trying to get in your pants, not win your heart. If he’s saying the nicest thing anyone’s ever said to you and you only just met, beware of his pretty smile with a nasty bite.
  3. The truth isn’t always flattering. That’s why someone who’s too charming is most likely being deceitful. If he only ever tells you good things then he’s not being real with you. Life is messy and it’s full of ups and downs. Charmers make life seem simple, though. They highlight everything good to make it seem like when you’re with them nothing could be bad. They’re using their flattery against you and unfortunately, unless you wise up, it’ll be a broken heart that takes you back to reality.
  4. If he has a line, odds are you aren’t the first girl who’s heard it. If it sounds like a line, it’s a line — open your damn eyes. You’re not the first girl he’s used those charming words on and you certainly won’t be the last. Don’t let yourself be another victim on his list and don’t fall for his BS. You might think he’s Prince Charming but he’s most likely just a player with perfected charm.
  5. Remember that people put on their best face for first impressions. If he’s trying to impress you then he’s flaunting (or even faking) his strengths while hiding his weaknesses. He’s a poker player who knows how to bluff. He’s on his best behavior so he can trick you into thinking he’s not only a good guy but the guy you’ve always dreamed of. To him, charm is a craft and his affection for you is all a part of the game.
  6. Don’t ever let a guy be your source of self-esteem. Players purposely go after girls who suffer from low self-esteem. They think of you as easy targets. He’s hoping he can be your ticket to confidence. All he has to do is lay on the charm and you’ll feel so good about yourself (and him) that you won’t realize his charisma is total BS.
  7. If he seems perfect then he’s not showing you the real him. Nobody’s perfect, so if a guy is kicking the charm into high gear he’s probably hiding something. Everyone has their flaws. Thinking that the guy you just met is perfect is a major red flag. Don’t ignore the signs — if everything is perfect, then there’s a skeleton in the closet just waiting to be found.
  8. Guys who really like you will be nervous at the start. Just like you have a first date and new relationship jitters, guys who are excited about dating you will too. It doesn’t mean they have no self-confidence, it just means they actually care what you think. They want you to like them and the possibility of rejection scares them just like is scares you. If his charm never shows a nerve then he’s not really interested in you — at least, not in having a real relationship with you.
  9. He knows how to make you fall for him fast. If you’re being swept away by his charisma, you might jump before you’re actually ready for something serious. Before you get ahead of yourself, take a step back from your puppy dog love and just slow down. If he really likes you then he won’t mind slowing down the pace. If this guy is just another charming player, he’ll either pressure you or leave you. Either way, you’ll see his true colors.
  10. Too charming can easily equate to narcissistic. The reason he always seems to say the right thing and you always seem to be in agreement with him is because he’s manipulating you. His narcissism is convincing as hell. He talks a big game and you think he’s the guy that every girl wants and that you’re so lucky he chose you. Just remember, he thinks that same thing too. He’s hot and you’re just another girl who couldn’t help but fall for his undeniable charm.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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