My BFF Is Amazing — That’s Why She Deserves These 10 Qualities From A Guy

I love my BFF and want to give her unsolicited advice pretty much 24/7 but I generally stay quiet and let her do her thing. Of course, all I really want is for her to find love with someone who will adore her as much as I do because she’s amazing. When she does find someone, I hope he’s all of these things:

  1. Compassionate. She needs a compassionate person who truly cares about her and the world around him. He should work hard every single day to be the best person he can possibly be and to extend kindness and empathy not only to my BFF but to everyone he meets.
  2. Honest. She’s been lied to and hurt more times than I want to count, and I don’t want to see that happen again. She deserves an honest guy who can be straight with her about his feelings, the relationship, and where he’s going in life. No more guessing games or late nights spent wondering what’s actually going on. She’s had enough of those.
  3. Fun. Hey, if it’s not fun, there’s really zero point dating someone. My BFF deserves someone fun who makes her smile, laugh, and always puts her in a better mood. She deserves someone who lives life to the fullest, no matter how cheesy that might be, and who pushes her to try new things, have new experiences, and travel.
  4. Intelligent. My best friend’s in her late 20s now and she’s so done with stupid guys (even if she doesn’t always think she is). She needs a smart guy, but more than that, she needs a super intelligent guy — the kind of guy who challenges her, who talks about everything under the sun, who is always curious and always learning.
  5. Spirited. Enough with the boring guys who can barely get through a dinner date. My BFF deserves a guy who has spirit. Someone who’s the life of the party (without being a massive partier, of course). Someone who can make even running the dullest of errands the most fun outing ever. He should be someone who lights her up every time she sees him.
  6. Trustworthy and reliable. These two qualities go hand in hand. After all the crap she’s been through, my best friend definitely needs a boyfriend that she can trust. This is way easier said than done since it can take a while to see if someone is trustworthy, but this is definitely the kind of person I see her with. She needs someone who calls when he says he will, who shows up when he’s supposed to, and who never makes her think there’s something wrong.
  7. Supportive and encouraging. My BFF for sure deserves a supportive boyfriend who would never dream of making her think she’s not good enough. She’s had tough times like anyone else and doesn’t need someone who makes her feel bad about that. She’s doing the best she can, and she needs someone who thinks the world of her.
  8. Interesting. It’s not enough anymore to date a cute guy who has an okay sense of humor. There has to be something else going on — something more. She deserves an interesting guy, someone who keeps her guessing (but not in a creepy dating games kind of way), someone who teaches her more than she ever thought he could.
  9. Mature. Are there any mature guys left in the universe? Sometimes it definitely doesn’t feel that way. But if there are, that’s who my BFF needs to be with. She needs to say goodbye to man-children and guys who just can’t grow up. She needs a grown-up living a grown-up life of work, bills, and responsibility.
  10. Romantic. At the end of the day, a relationship can survive on a whole lot of things and both partners can have all sorts of qualities. But what my best friend in the world really deserves? That would be a guy who isn’t afraid of some romance. She needs to be swept off her feet… in a totally modern, realistic way, of course. She needs the kind of boyfriend who will erase all her bad memories of guys and make her believe in love again. If she can find that person, she should never let him go.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.