My BFF & I Were Single At The Same Time & It Was The Best Thing Ever

I’m in a serious relationship now and my best friend is about to get married, but there was a period when we were both single at the same time and it was seriously one of the best times in both of our lives. Here’s why it was so much fun:

  1. We were each other’s constant wing-women. Being single and trying to mingle is totally daunting for me, especially the part where I have to be able to speak to the opposite sex coherently and flirtily all at the same time. My best friend was my biggest fan during the awkward single days when I would get super cute to go to a bar to meet potential new guys and then not know what to say or how to say it—and I did the same for her.
  2. We hung out so much more than we do now. We were always together and it was great. We weren’t dating anyone so we had so much more time to spend just hanging out and having a good time. It’s amazing how much time you have when you’re single, mainly because you’re not busy incorporating a boyfriend into your life. We planned our own little dates and I always looked forward to our adventures.
  3. Most of our drunken nights ended with us laughing hysterically on her bedroom floor. Since most of our nights out resulted in us getting drunk and going home together rather than with a guy, we basically had the best time. We stayed up late, ate lots of pizza and cackled our way back home in the back of an Uber. I know I totally sound like I’m recounting a montage in a cheesy female forward rom-com, but my life with her back then actually felt that way. Our nights were these super fun, lighthearted fun-filled times. We would take a few shots, get to a bar, hope to meet someone and if not we’d just dance the night away until our feet couldn’t handle it anymore.
  4. We could relate to each other the best. We were both going through the awkward single phase together. We’d both gotten out of relatively long-term relationships around the same time too, so the insecurities that we felt about being single and feeling like we couldn’t find time to date or that we couldn’t find the right guys to date resonated with both of us. We leaned on each other and boosted each other up every time we felt a bit insecure.
  5. We supported each other when our exes started dating again. Both of our exes started dating again before we did. She and I processed our circumstances differently. She was in contact with her ex and I really wasn’t, but we got each other through it. She was my first line of defense against the sadness and jealousy I felt each time my ex posted a new picture with his new girlfriend and vice versa. Had either of us been in a relationship, I’m not sure how we would have gotten through it all. It makes me believe that we were meant to be single together so that we could help each other.
  6. We were always willing to go out and party all night long. It was just so much fun! There was no question about whether we were heading out to party on a weekend. Friday nights were our time to shine. The party was always on. As someone who goes to bed before 11 p.m. every night when I can help it now, I look back on those nights very fondly.
  7. Whenever I needed to drink wine and complain about my life, she was there. I used to bitch about my life a lot. I was single, I was sometimes lonely, I was getting over my ex, I was trying to figure out my next career move…basically, I was a little bit lost sometimes. But she picked me up. She brought me wine, she patiently listened to me bitch, and she gave me the advice I needed to hear to get through it all.
  8. Even though we craved male companionship, we sort of started to date each other. In some ways, we were each other’s stand-ins for the relationships we didn’t have at the time. I know that sounds kind of unhealthy, but I think that it was really great for us at the time. As a result of spending more time together, we incorporated each other into our daily and weekly routines. We became more inseparable than ever. We didn’t have a romantic relationship, but she was the closest person to me emotionally at the time. Eventually, we got into new romantic relationships and spent less time together as a result., but it doesn’t make the time we shared any less valuable or important than any romantic relationship I’ve ever had.
  9. We became stronger friends in the end. Our friendship strengthened so much during this period of time and we’re genuinely unbreakable now. We grew into fierce, confident women together. We had fun. We lived life to the absolute fullest and we did what we needed to do to survive our early twenties together. I’ll never forget it and I’m forever grateful.
Marie is an ambitious millennial woman, leading a corporate life by day and doing her best to live, laugh and love.
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