The Bigger Your Heart, The Harder You Fall In Love

Hopeless romantics are often accused of having every bad quality in the dating book, from naive to innocent to totally delusional. If you fit into that category, you know the truth: you’re not stupid, you just have a really big heart. If you have a massive heart, you can’t help but be all in.

  1. You always see the good in people. You never want to believe that a guy could be lying to you or faking his interest. When you like someone, you REALLY like them and no one can convince you otherwise. Why would you think the worst of someone before you’ve even truly gotten to know them? Sadly, sometimes this backfires and you’re hurt faster than you can even realize.
  2. You think being single is a fate worse than death. When you have a super big heart, you don’t get the whole being solo and happy thing. It’s definitely not for you. You think that the whole point of being alive is having someone special by your side and caring deeply about them. You hate being between boyfriends for this very reason.
  3. You’re in love with being in love. From holding hands to “good morning” text messages to romantic gestures big and small, you love everything that has to do with being one half of a couple. You’re in love with being in love. The worst part? You can convince yourself that you’re hopelessly in love with a guy that you know deep down is totally wrong for you. You can guess how well that’s going to work out.
  4. You refuse to see the warning signs and red flags. You could be practically blinded by all the things that are wrong about the new guy in your life… but all you see is how cute he is, how much you enjoy hanging out with him, and how much he likes you. You always refuse to see that something could be wrong with your seemingly perfect new relationship. This gets you into a ton of trouble but you never learn your lesson. Even if things go south this time, you’ll just do the exact same thing next time.
  5. You hurt yourself for the sake of love. It may be a cliche but as you get older, you learn the hardest love-related lesson of all: that love is not always enough to keep two people together. Since you have the biggest heart ever, you totally ignore this lesson 24/7. You’ll keep dating someone that causes you pain and so you end up hurting yourself in the process since you won’t walk away when you should.
  6. Your best friends roll their eyes when you say you’ve met someone. They may as well scream, “Here we go again!” from the rooftops. You don’t get why your BFFs seem so annoyed whenever you swear that this guy is truly the one for you, but they never seem all that supportive. You really do believe that this new guy is going to stick around, no matter how many times this doesn’t actually happen.
  7. You think that any relationship problem can be worked out. There are some things that happen in a relationship that spell disaster and a breakup is the only good idea. These are different for everyone and super subjective. You don’t agree with this, though. You think that anything can be fixed and will fight to the death for your current love story. And no, you don’t see anything wrong with that.
  8. You hate your generation’s way of dating. Since you have a big heart, you’re an old-fashioned gal. You want to be picked up at your apartment door. You want a fancy dinner and you want the guy to pay the bill and you want him to open doors for you. You want it all, basically, and so the way that your generation dates is total hell for you. Netflix and chill? How is that going to help you find your one and only?
  9. You get taken advantage of all the time. Since you fall so fast when you meet a new guy, you definitely get taken advantage of… and you don’t even notice that it’s happening until it’s too late. You’re already in super deep. You don’t think this is an issue since you think that more people should open their hearts.
  10. You ignore even the smartest dating advice. So what if your friends and family think that you should slow down? That you shouldn’t be so quick to think that your new guy is perfect? You never listen to any kind of dating advice. Of course you should, because sometimes it takes another person to see the truth, but hey, you don’t want to hear that you’re doing anything wrong.
  11. You know that eventually, someone will appreciate your big heart. Or at least that’s what you tell yourself to survive your single and dating years. You think that the guys you’ve dated in the past have been too immature to understand how to date you. You know how to love, after all. You just need to find the right guy who can love you right back.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.