If Your Biggest Fear In Life Is Being Single Forever, You’ve Got It Good

If you’re currently okay with being single but dread the thought of growing old alone, here are 15 good reasons why you need to embrace being a forever single—after all, it’s really not that bad.

  1. You’re never aloneUnless you choose to be, that is. There are hundreds of connections you can make with people around you, and they might even be more satisfying than romantic connections. Not having a life partner enables you to explore them fully.
  2. You’ll live life your way. You don’t have to compromise on your needs and dreams, which is what you’ll have to do to some degree at some point in your relationship or marriage. You can design your life in exactly the way you want in all areas. How liberating!
  3. Most people end up alone. It sounds jaded but it’s actually realistic: many women in their older years end up alone, such as when they become divorced. But at least you’ll know what to do with all that time to yourself as an older single because you’ll never have been sidetracked by the hopes and failed dreams of a marriage.
  4. You’ll have better finances. You might not be thinking ahead to your retirement but you should. If you stay single, you’ll have much more money to spend on funding your dreams and ensuring a comfortable lifestyle when you stop working.
  5. You’ll have solitude. This isn’t the same thing as loneliness! Having time on your own is important. It helps you think independently, gain relaxation, and achieve personal growth. Who needs a partner to do that? In fact, often being in an LTR prevents that from happening as much as you’d like.
  6. You can do what makes you happy. You can volunteer, travel all over the globe, make amazing friendships, pursue wild dreams, and do anything else that you want to do. Happiness comes in many forms. A relationship is certainly not the only path to it, for goodness’ sake.
  7. You can be selfish AF and it’s cool. And really, why shouldn’t you? You don’t have to take a partner into account or worry about what he’ll think. It’s all about you and what you want! How often did you really get a chance to focus on all your wildest dreams in previous relationships? Yeah, not enough.
  8. You won’t be in an average relationship. Too many people end up reaching a point in their lives where they think they have to settle with someone who’s not their dream guy but who’s available just to be married. That’s such crap. By not taking that route, you live authentically and prevent an average relationship from wasting your life.
  9. You’ll be happier and less stressed. Whether or not you’re in a relationship, you’ll never be 100 percent happy all the time. When you’re on your own, you’ll certainly be happier by not having to deal with certain relationship issues, such as drama, your partner’s baggage, betrayal, and a conflict of life goals.
  10. You open yourself up to new things. Being on your own will make you more likely to see life as an adventure because you’re not held back by a relationship or marriage. Just think of everything you can achieve with all the time you have!
  11. You question what you want. You get to think about what you really, truly want for your life, instead of going through the motions or thinking you want something just because your partner does. You’ll be much more in tune with happiness and how to get it.
  12. You might be healthier. A 2013 study published in Health Psychology journal found that happy, married people tend to pack on the pounds within four years of getting married. If you don’t get married, you’re likely to keep yourself in a healthy, fit state, instead of becoming complacent because you’ve found someone.
  13. You won’t die alone. Or get eaten by your cats. These are common fears you have when you’re single, but they’re total BS. You don’t need a partner to be holding your hand when you die because you’ll have loads of other people there for you. Besides, it’s crazy to think you need someone just so you won’t be alone when you die. WTF? Rather focus on what you need right now to live a happy life, and it doesn’t have to be a marriage!
  14. You won’t be held back. You might think you need a partner to achieve certain things in your life, but that’s another myth that needs to die. As a forever single, you can do all the things you would’ve done in a marriage, such as having kids, having strong bonds and powerful relationships, and an amazing sex life.
  15. You won’t regret it. You might worry that you’ll regret not settling down with someone when you’re on your deathbed, looking back on your life. But honestly, it’s not a common regret people have when they’re dying. Seriously, there’s more to life than having a man. However, not living a life that’s true to yourself is the most common regret! So there you have it. You’re more likely to regret a life you half-lived in a marriage than you will a full, fabulous single life.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.