Is Your Boyfriend Bad For Your Health? 15 Signs Your Relationship Could Be Making You Ill

You might think you’re happy in your relationship, but if your boyfriend’s doing any of these 15 things, he’s bad for your health and well-being and you should seriously consider telling him it’s over. No man is worth getting sick over.

  1. His lips are zipped. If it feels like your boyfriend’s got a ton of secrets, this is frustrating AF and is sure to make you anxious. You’ll feel confused about trusting him and communication will keep hitting a wall. Over time, that’s guaranteed to make you stressed out, which comes with a whole bunch of health problems like high blood pressure. Not cool.
  2. He’s a junk food junkie. When it’s his turn to cook, he always brings home greasy take-out or cooks dinner with unhealthy ingredients without even telling you. He’s clearly not too concerned with his health, but that shouldn’t mean yours has to suffer for it. Of course you make your own food choices, but being around unhealthy food all the time is a temptation that’s easy to surrender to, and you don’t need the health problems that come from it.
  3. He doesn’t play it safe. He doesn’t like condoms for whatever lame reason and you think you’re safe since you’ve been together for months. Err, no. He could be carrying “silent” STIs that don’t have symptoms, so if you’re going to give the condoms a miss, get tested first!
  4. He puffs away and you’ve never smoked in your life. If your boyfriend smokes cigarettes around you, that second-hand smoke is going straight to your lungs and putting you at risk of diseases such as emphysema and lung cancer. It’s also just a sign of disrespect if he insists on smoking around you—you don’t need to inhale that crap.
  5. He wrecks your sleep. He calls you with something urgent at three in the morning or turns up after a party, ignoring the fact that you were asleep because you have a busy day the next day. If he’s always getting in the way of your sleep, he’s to blame for your under-eye circles and lack of focus.
  6. He loves taking risks. You might love his adventurous spirit, but make sure he’s actually not just a jerk who doesn’t care about your safety. If he drives when drunk, gets into fights at shady bars or does other things that put your life in danger, he’s not good for you at all.
  7. He ignores your stress. He invites you to a busy function even though he knows you get anxious in large crowds, or he takes you to a party where he gets stoned even though you’ve told him you hate being around drugs. He’s not putting your life in immediate danger, he’s putting your mind in chaos and it’s upsetting AF. You don’t need that crap in your life.
  8. He mocks your gym routine. When you tell him you’re hitting the gym, he’s quick to mock or tease you about your fitness habits. When you suggest going for a walk, he tells you he’d rather drive. If he’s always getting in the way of your fitness routine or trying to bring you down because of it, he’s disrespecting your health—and he’s a jerk.
  9. You’ve put on weight. It’s normal to put on a bit of weight when you’re in a happy relationship—eat, love, and pray you can still fit into your skinny jeans, right?—but if you’re noticing drastic changes to your weight since you got into your relationship, i.e. you’re putting on the pounds or you’re losing them fast, it could point to stress or unhealthy lifestyle habits in your relationship.
  10. Your self-esteem has taken a nosedive. You often feel small around your partner, like your opinions and thoughts don’t matter to him. When you’re away from him, you feel kick-ass confident. It’s not a coincidence. Your boyfriend’s bringing you down, zapping your confidence and giving you unhealthy issues like low self-esteem or depression that you don’t need.
  11. Your numbers are out of whack. When you go to the doctor for a checkup, your blood pressure’s high or your blood sugar has increased. Sometimes your body gives you signs that you’re stressed AF, so keep a check on these numbers. If they’re regularly out of whack during stressful times in your relationship that are happening a lot lately, your boyfriend’s whack.
  12. You’re running on empty. Your boyfriend always needs your help and while it feels good to support him in your relationship, it’s not healthy if giving him so much of your time, energy, and money results in you neglecting your needs.
  13. He’s untouchable. You should have affection in your relationship—it not only brings you and your boyfriend closer but it’s good for your health. Experts say that affection increases your oxytocin levels. This reduces blood pressure, stress, and anxiety. If he’s cold AF and never seems to touch you unless he wants sex, he’s a jerk who’s bad for you.
  14. Your phone is attached to your hand. If you find yourself checking up on him all the time on your phone because he hasn’t made contact yet again, you’re stressing yourself out. But being attached to your phone has other negative effects, such as text neck. This is when you’re looking down at your phone so much that you’re getting upper back pain, shoulder pain, and even pain from pinched nerves. Ouch!
  15. You don’t do the stuff you love anymore. When you have some spare time, your boyfriend always determines what you both do for fun. This means you’re no longer reaching out to your loved ones, spending time with great friends, or doing your own stuff. Soon, you’re going to feel resentment, restlessness, or anxiety because you’re putting yourself on the back-burner. This is definitely not good for you. If he can’t compromise and respect your life outside of the relationship, he needs to GTFO.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.