My Boyfriend Doesn’t Care That I Have Guy Friends, So Why Does Everyone Else?

Boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever. My boyfriend doesn’t care that I have guy friends so I’m not really sure why so many people have a problem with it. “You can’t just be friends with guys” is an old-fashioned myth that needs to die. My relationship with my boyfriend and my guy friends works perfectly, and here’s why.

  1. I’m Not Attracted To Them. They say the more you get to know someone, the more you like them. This wasn’t the case with me and my guy friends. The more I’ve gotten to know them, the less I’ve liked them in any sort of romantic way. They’re my buddies, you know? My farting, kind of an acquired taste, but super fun to hang out with buddies.
  2. We Don’t Have A Weird Past. My guy friends and I are ONLY friends, and I’m not saying that because my boyfriend is probably reading this article right now. We don’t have a sketchy past where we used to date or we hooked up in college. Nothing has ever happened between any of us and that’s the only way the relationships work. Being friends with guys is possible…just as long as you didn’t sleep with any of them!
  3. They Don’t Cross Boundaries. I’m not naive enough to say my guy friends aren’t physically attracted to me. They very well could be for all I know. What I can say is they’ve never come close to crossing any sort of boundaries. They don’t flirt with me, touch me in an inappropriate way, or do anything that could be misconstrued as something not so friendly.
  4. I Have female Friends Too. I’m not that girl who only has guy friends. I have friends that are women and I hang out with them the same amount, if not more, than my guy friends. Just wanted to throw that out there.
  5. They’re The Perfect Backup. My boyfriend travels a lot for work, which means he’s not always in town when I need him to attend events (mainly weddings). Having guy friends means I have wedding dates that my boyfriend and I both approve of.
  6. They Call Me On My Crap. If I’m being an annoying girlfriend, my guy friends will tell me I’m being an annoying girlfriend. I need that! Especially considering I don’t have the best self-awareness and it’s not like my boyfriend is going to call me out when I’m acting like literal garbage.
  7. They Make Me A Better Communicator. Guy friends give the best advice, especially when it comes to relationships. If I’m having a problem with my boyfriend, I go to my guy friends because they bring a different perspective. My girls are always on my side, but guys challenge me to step into my boyfriend’s shoes. I appreciate that.
  8. My Boyfriend Trusts Me. If I wanted to cheat, I could cheat. It doesn’t matter if I’m drinking alcohol at a club or sitting in my apartment with a bunch of dudes — cheating can happen whenever someone wants it to. That’s why relationships have to consist of two people who trust each other completely. My boyfriend trusts I’m not going to cheat on him, so it doesn’t matter if I have guy friends or not.
  9. I Don’t Care What They Think Of My Relationship. I care way more what my girlfriends think of me, and my relationship, than my guy friends. I’m not saying all girls are judgy but my friends are (in a pinch). Which is why I’m more comfortable bringing my boyfriend around my guy friends than my squad of girls.
  10. They’re Friends With My guy. My guy friends and my boyfriend aren’t just cool with one another, they actually hang out. They don’t go out every weekend or anything like that but they’ll meet up for beers and golf (you know, “bro” activities). Sure, they’re more my friends and I think I’d win them in the divorce, but it’s nice there’s mutual respect between all of them.
  11. They’re Equally As Invested In My Relationship. None of my guy friends are rooting for my relationship to fail. In fact, they talk about the future of my relationship more than I do. And it’s not because they feel like they have to or they want to make me smile. They legit think my boyfriend and I are going to be together forever. It’s nice to have people in your corner that are in your corner because they want to be!
  12. If My Boyfriend Had A Problem, He’d Tell Me. My boyfriend isn’t really someone who’d sit in silence if he was upset with something — he’d tell me! If he had a problem with my guy friends, he’d let me know. Honestly, he’d probably let them know too. We’re pretty vocal with one another and I think that’s key.
  13. My Boyfriend Also Has Girl Friends. Guess what? I’m not the only one with friends of the opposite sex. My boyfriend has them, too. And before you ask, no…I’m not jealous of them. It’s partially because I think I’m slightly hotter than his girlfriends (yes, I went there) and partially because I’ve seen them interact. They’re just friends. The same way I and with my guy friends.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.