Your Boyfriend Isn’t A Saint If He Does These 10 Things—It Should Be More Normal Than It Is

There’s a lot of talk about how rare it is to find a good guy today—there’s a reason that we call them “unicorns,” after all. So when you finally find someone who you want to be your boyfriend and he behaves a certain way, you marvel at how amazing it is. But shouldn’t this just be what happens? Doing these things doesn’t make your boyfriend a saint—he’s doing what anyone should in a relationship:

  1. Making you dinner on a regular basis If your love life has consisted of awkward Tinder dates and guys who wouldn’t commit to you, it seems like winning the lottery when you start dating a guy who offers to cook you dinner. Are you starring in your very own rom-com or is this really happening? Once you settle into a serious relationship and your guy takes to the kitchen regularly, you should honestly realize that this is what he should be doing. When you care about someone, you take care of them, and for some people, that means taking charge of the meals. If he never did this, he’d be a lazy jerk.
  2. Cleaning your apartment (or his) Let’s face it, guys have a reputation for being slobs. You might want to film your boyfriend cleaning your place (or his) to prove to your friends that guys really do clean, but it’s really not that nuts. If a guy is a mature adult, he should give a crap about keeping his space neat and tidy. Honestly, it would be weirder if he didn’t pick up after himself or ever use his vacuum.
  3. Agreeing to spend time with your best friends There’s no reason to give your guy a medal if he says he’ll hang out with your friends this weekend or come to parties that you’re invited to. This is what every boyfriend should do, and you should go to his events too. When you’re in a relationship, that means that you’re each other’s plus-ones. If that’s not happening, it’s pretty messed up, but if it is, it’s just what happens.
  4. Coming home with you to visit your parents/for holidays Maybe it’s because people have a reputation for being lazy and wanting to only casually date these days, but for some reason, it seems like a really big step to bring your boyfriend home with you. Whether it’s a random weekend or for Christmas, it feels like you should alert the media or something. But why? If you’re with someone, this is what you do. End of story.
  5. Telling you how he feels about you It’s a shame that a guy who can talk about his emotions and who can tell you exactly how he feels about you has become such a magical thing. This shouldn’t be the case at all. You should be amazed when a guy can’t even say that he likes you, not when he says that he’s nuts about you and wants to be with you forever. Let’s agree not to make guys into saints for speaking about their feelings, OK? It should be expected, not an exception.
  6. Talking about the future of your relationship Since when did it become out of the ordinary for the guy that you’re dating to tell you that he wants to truly commit to you? How about when he says that he wants to move in together or get married or if he just wants you to know that you’re special and important to him? Of course it feels awesome when you find someone like this, but instead of feeling like he’s a rare creature, remember that this is how people should always behave.
  7. Making plans and organizes things While you might be used to planning trips and social outings because, well, you’re the girlfriend, that doesn’t always have to be the case. When you meet a guy who is willing to make some social plans and invite you to stuff, it feels strange at first, but it’s honestly a breath of fresh air. It shouldn’t seem that weird. Guys are totally capable of making plans.
  8. Watching girly stuff with you sometimes You definitely shouldn’t force your boyfriend to watch every new episode of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills with you, but he should be willing to watch the odd romantic comedy or so-called girly TV show from time to time. It seems like he’s going above and beyond when really, this is a compromise and that’s the hallmark of any good relationship.
  9. Suggesting going on an actual date night Maybe it’s because guys have a rep for wanting to drink beer and watch sports all the time, but it feels like guys never want to leave the house and go on a real date. The truth is that sometimes, you don’t either because you’re a nice person and life is busy. It should be considered perfect for guys to want to go on date nights. It’s sweet and romantic and it’s just what you do when you’re in love with someone.
  10. Listening to you rant You’ve probably told your friends that your BF is the best because he lets you talk about people or situations that are bothering you. And they’ve probably said the same thing to you. Is this really so nuts, though? Isn’t this just what you do as someone’s partner? It’s definitely time to stop treating guys who do these 10 things as rare unicorns and start expecting this kind of treatment. It’s the only way to have a healthy, legit relationship, which is the only kind of relationship worth having.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.