My Boyfriend & I Pretend To Be Strangers When We Go Out & It’s Saved Our Relationship

Roleplaying might be common in the bedroom, but what about in public? When my boyfriend and I go out, we pretend to be completely different people who’ve never met before. It might seem silly but it’s been a total relationship-saver.

  1. We want to keep our relationship feeling new. One of the best parts of a relationship is the honeymoon period. I remember first meeting my significant other and feeling the familiar butterflies of a schoolyard crush. Love changes as time goes by, and that giddiness gives way to comfort (and in the worst cases, complacency). When my boyfriend and I pretend to be strangers at a bar, those initial feelings of excitement and intensity come rushing back.
  2. We enjoy the challenge of coming up with new characters. Each time we go out, we come up with new backgrounds and personalities. It’s a fun game that forces us both to be clever and creative. It’s easy to forget the simple entertainment of playing a game with your partner but this is one of the most enjoyable things we do together.
  3. It gives us something to look forward to. Everyday life can get boring and monotonous. I know that sometimes I just want to step away from the daily grind and take a break. This advanced version of roleplaying is the perfect way to put my own stress on pause and step into somebody else’s shoes for a night. It feels great.
  4. We get to feel a little “naughty.” Many of us have the fantasy of meeting a handsome/beautiful stranger in a dark bar and spending one careless, passionate night with them. One way to live out this fantasy and avoid stranger danger and STDs is to do it with your partner who you love and trust. It’s the best of both worlds.
  5. It’s really good foreplay. Pretending to be enigmatic strangers is an instant turn-on. I’m able to see my boyfriend in a completely new light, and he gets to see me as a mysterious seductress as well. One thing is guaranteed: it always ends in a super sexy night.
  6. It helps me be less inhibited. It’s easier to do things that scare you when you’re not being yourself. I find that I’m a lot more adventurous (sexually and otherwise) when I’m pretending to be a completely different person. The same goes for my boyfriend. Together, we’re able to spice up our relationship and try new things.
  7. We get to have new conversations. When you’ve been together for a while, you get to know each other really well. When you know everything about someone, conversations get monotonous and a bit tiring. One great way to fix this issue is to pretend to be people that have never met each other. It suddenly gives you loads to talk about.
  8. It gives us a reason to go out. It’s easy to find excuses not go out when you’re comfortable with someone. Netflix often sounds a lot more appealing than the club. However, this little ritual has made my boyfriend and I excited to get dressed and leave the house way more often. It’s a good excuse not to sit at home on a Saturday night.
  9. We want to remember why we fell for each other. Even though we’re pretending to be strangers, we’re still the same people at the end of the day. Throughout the night, I always find myself remembering why I fell for my partner in the first place. I notice the little things that made me fall in love when we first started dating, which are all too easy to take for granted when they’re around all the time.
  10. We have more fun! The roleplaying exercise gives us an excuse to dress up, go somewhere new, and have an overall great time! I would definitely recommend this fun activity to anyone in a relationship.  Our little game never fails to reignite the spark, and it always make us giggle throughout the whole next day.
If Giselle wasn’t a writer, she would probably be a sea nymph from Greek Mythology, a permanent resident in an Art Nouveau painting, or a professional exotic fruit taster. You can find her on Instagram