If You Feel Like Your Broken Heart Is Going To Kill You, Read This

A broken heart can hurt so badly that sometimes it feels like it will literally kill you. Don’t worry — it won’t. There is hope at the end of heartbreak, even if you can’t see it now. One day you’ll heal, and you’ll be stronger for it.

  1. This won’t last forever. Yes, it feels like it might last forever, but it won’t. Of course it’s not comforting at all to hear that things will eventually get better, but they will. It’s the one truth you can hold on to in the middle of the worst pain of your life — the truth that one day you’ll be whole again and that this won’t last forever. Nothing does. That’s the beauty and the agony of this world, all wrapped up into one sentence.
  2. It hurts, and that’s okay. It is normal for it to hurt this badly. Even if you think it’s the worst feeling in the world, it’s normal. Again, small comfort while you’re in the thick of it, but it’s normal. You’re not a freak for getting your heart broken, and you’re not weird because of how intense it feels. It is going to hurt and it’s going to be a hurt that you need to feel for a while, but you’ll make it.
  3. You don’t need to get over it. Don’t put pressure on your heart to heal before it’s ready. Just like you need to nurse a broken limb, taking the weight off it for a while, you may need to rest your heart. It’s up to you how long that will take, but there’s no set time frame. You don’t need to get over it within a certain amount of weeks or months. Love is not a mathematical equation, and neither is healing from heartbreak.
  4. Broken hearts happen to everyone. You’re not alone in this. Everyone feels like their broken heart might never heal… until one day, it does. It’s a fear that’s universal. Everyone on this earth has experienced the same hurt that you have, in some tiny, minuscule way. It’s a connective tissue to the rest of your fellow humans. They’ve made it out okay and so will you.
  5. Trust that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the reason is that your ex never would have treated you well; other times it’s because there’s someone better out there for you. Sometimes, the only reason is that life can be really crappy for no reason at all other than to teach you that you can deal with it and come out the other side stronger than ever.
  6. It definitely makes you stronger. You know how sometimes after a break, a bone can come back stronger, refortified. It’s your choice how you’ll let this broken heart heal. You can embrace the pain and let it force you to grow if you’re willing to embrace the lessons your failed relationship is trying to teach you. That’s the opportunity inside the heartbreak.
  7. It might take a long time, but you’ll get there. Getting over your ex and fully healing might take a hell of a lot longer than you want it to. This is an unfortunate truth that cannot be worked around. Accepting it means you’re still holding out hope for a day without the pain, even if it won’t be for a long while.
  8. You’ll learn a lot. You’ll learn what you need to be strong, what you need to feel safe, when you need to let yourself break down and cry it out and let the feeling of your guts ripping in half take over for a night. You’ll learn that you are much more powerful than you ever imagined. This broken heart will heal, one day, but along the way, it will teach you things.
  9. Listen to yourself. If you need a rest, take a rest. Listen to what your heart is telling you. If it’s whispering that it needs just a little more time before feeling better, allow yourself to mourn some more. Healing comes with being in touch with your inner self.
  10. You will heal. It doesn’t seem like it right now, and it might not seem like it when it’s been months and you’re still feeling the ache, but it will happen. One day, you will wake up and notice that you haven’t thought about this brokenness for a whole week. It will come, and it will come gradually, but believe in this: you will heal, and you will be better for it.
Becca Rose is a writer with high hopes for her student loan debt. She's a musician and aspiring novelist, but don't ask her to write poetry, because she's terrible at it. She has written for HelloGiggles, The Toast, The Huffington Post, and more. You can find her on Twitter @bookbeaut