10 Brutally Honest Reasons People Cheat

People cheat all the time without much consideration for their partner’s feelings, but why do they do it? Is it because it’s easier now than it ever was before, or is it because our culture is semi-heartless? Here’s the truth on infidelity and why so many people are unfaithful.

  1. They’re Afraid Of Commitment. People cheat because they’re afraid of being in love and being loved. They don’t want the responsibility or risk that comes with it—and let’s face it, being committed to another person is pretty damn risky. Even the best relationships with the kindest people can turn ugly in an instant. That’s why exclusivity is so unattractive to cheaters. They don’t want to put their faith into anyone, let alone one single person.
  2. They Really, Really Like Sex. Who really has the time and energy to have sex every day? No one! More importantly, no one is obligated to have that much sex, and yet cheaters think they deserve that kind of attention. When they don’t get it, they quench their thirst elsewhere. Sure, they might feel bad about it, but they still do it.
  3. They’re In Need Of Validation. Cheaters typically have very low self-esteem. Maybe they were bullied in high school or blindsided with a breakup. Whatever it was, they experienced something that greatly impacted how they feel about themselves. Now they need constant validation from more everyone, which leads to cheating.
  4. They’re Bored With Their Life. People don’t cheat because they can’t find anything to watch on Netflix. They cheat because they’re bored with their jobs, their friends, and their entire lives. They’re looking for some excitement, even if that excitement comes from hurting someone they care about. Some people cheat just so they can escape from themselves and pretend to be someone else for a couple of hours.
  5. They’re Pissed Off. Revenge is another reason why people cheat. They’re hurt and upset and want their partner to feel the same exact way. Maybe their partner cheated first, and now, they’re cheating back to get even. Unfortunately, two wrongs don’t make a right and once you stoop to this level of revenge, it’s hard to forgive yourself.
  6. There Was An Opportunity. Believe it or not, some people cheat simply because there was an opportunity to do so. Maybe they were in a fight with their significant other and a good-looking person at the bar complimented their outfit and BAM, they’re naked in bed. Sometimes cheating happens simply because someone smiled in the wrong direction.
  7. They Don’t Feel Worthy. Would you cheat if you’re in love? It might seem strange, but some people cheat when they’re happy. Why? Because they don’t feel worthy of happiness. They can’t figure out why their partner loves them, and this need to validate their relationship is what drives them to cheat. They’re searching for someone who can make them feel worthy.
  8. They’re Curious. Shockingly, there are people who stay together for years, decades even. And while long-term relationships have a lot of positives, they also have negatives. For example, some people get curious and want to know what it’s like to be romantic with someone else. But instead of daydreaming, they act upon their curiosity and cheat on their partner.
  9. They Feel Neglected. Maybe their significant other is busy with work. Or, maybe they’ve grown too comfortable in the relationship. Some people cheat because they don’t feel loved anymore. The attention they grew accustomed to in the beginning has dwindled into nothing. And instead of feeling cherished, they feel disgusting and worthless. These emotions can lead to resentment, which usually leads to cheating.
  10. They’re Over The Relationship. If you’re too afraid or weak to tell someone it’s over, cheating probably sounds like an easy way out. Especially if you’re hoping your partner finds out and breaks up with you. Unfortunately, cheating is a coward’s way out of a relationship. It causes more hurt than necessary and leaves the person being cheated on with a lot of bruises.
  11. They Want Attention. Cheating isn’t always about escaping a relationship or trying to hurt someone. Some people cheat to get attention from their partners. They don’t have the words to say they’re unhappy, so they show it in their actions. Cheating can be a wake-up call and doesn’t always mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes cheating opens the door a couple needed to work things out.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.