Some guys are way too quick to slap the “crazy” label on women when they’re too arrogant to admit that they’ve messed up. If you’re starting to doubt yourself because a guy keeps calling you insane or irrational when you speak up about how you feel, kick him out of your life — you should never stay with a guy who belittles your emotions.
- You don’t need a douchebag who can’t communicate like an adult. A stand-up guy will hear you out and work to make things right between you because he knows calling you crazy only makes the problem worse. A guy who doesn’t even bother to listen to why you’re upset and just belittles you instead is a guy you shouldn’t be dealing with in the first place.
- You’re too smart to be with someone who hasn’t grown up. This behavior might have been acceptable in high school, but as adults, it’s laughably childish. You have better things you could be doing than spending your life with a man-child who hasn’t learned how to problem-solve like an adult. Do yourself a favor and erase his words from your memory — they’re simply not true.
- Immature guys can’t handle strong women. Guys who can’t handle you will find some excuse to put you down and make you doubt yourself so they can feel better about their own behavior. When you’re a strong and capable woman who isn’t afraid to stand up for herself, you’ll meet plenty of guys who feel emasculated by your tenacity and aim to kick you down instead. Don’t let the jerks win. Hold your head high and let yourself see these jerks for who they really are.
- You have a right to point out when he’s not treating you fairly. If a guy says or does something unkind to you, you have every right to speak up and tell him it bothers you. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel bad for stating your feelings — you’re entitled to them. If he simply dismisses you and tells you that you’re acting crazy, why are you staying with him at all? The key elements to a healthy and long-lasting relationship are communication and mutual respect, and a guy that throws the crazy label at you isn’t giving you that. You can do better.
- A grown man won’t reply with rude and condescending remarks. Not all guys use this lame-ass line to avoid confrontation and dealing with the consequences of their actions. There are plenty of men who will own up to the crappy thing that they did or said and apologize like they should. Don’t think for a second that you need to sit down and take this nonsense.
- There are plenty of other options. Guys like this are a dime a dozen these days, and even though it seems like they’re everywhere, you don’t have to put up with this crap. There are mature guys are out there who will take your feelings seriously, so stop wasting your time with the idiots who put all the blame on you.
- You shouldn’t be with anyone who makes you feel like crap. So what if you got upset and texted him a few extra times because he ghosted you? So what if you got angry when he canceled plans with you for the third time in a week? Some guys think they can do whatever they want whenever they want even if it hurts someone else in the process. It’s not your job to take all that lying down. You’re not crazy for sticking up for yourself, and no one should make you feel like you are.
- You’re better off alone than with another gaslighting moron. Gaslighting is a common tactic used by manipulators and abusers to make you feel like you’re going crazy. It can really lower your self-confidence and make you feel even more dependent on the guy who’s doing it to you. As soon as you start seeing the signs, get out. You’ll only end up miserable if you continue to date a guy who shifts the blame on you when he can’t own up to his shortcomings.
- The right kind of love is patient and understanding. The kind of love that’s worth having can only happen when two people care about each other enough to talk things out like grownups should. Hold out for the guy who cares if you’re upset and gives a crap about making things right. Don’t settle for someone who makes you feel like you’re crazy because he can’t accept fault for his own actions.