How Can You Say You Love Me When You Treat Me So Badly?

I love you and that’s why I do everything I can to treat you with love, respect, kindness and consideration. Unfortunately, I can’t say the same for you. You claim that you love me but frankly if that were true, you wouldn’t treat me like crap.

  1. You walk all over me. Even worse, you think that because I love you, you’re going to get away with it. The fact that you think you can take advantage of me proves how little you care. Even if you thought you had me wrapped around your finger, a man who truly loves me wouldn’t even try to test how far he can push me. WTF?
  2. If you really loved me, you wouldn’t be the source of my pain. Instead, you would want to protect me. Love shouldn’t be made up of so much BS. You knowingly put me in situations that you knew would cause me pain. That’s not love. In fact, that’s so evil that it feels like hate. You have no regard for my feelings and in reality, all you are is my source of daily pain.
  3. You don’t know how to appreciate my love. At the end of the day, I can’t get past the fact that you take me for granted. I loved you with every fiber of my being. I loved you day after day in the best way I knew how, but you never returned the favor. You should have felt lucky to have found a girl like me, but all you ever made me feel like was a burden.
  4. There’s only so much a woman can take. I’ve been dealing with your crap for far too long. When do we get to the point where you start treating me right? You may have thought this day would never come, but I’ve reached my limit. I can’t just keep waiting for you to grow up and learn how to be a good boyfriend. I’m at my breaking point. You say you love me, but the way you treat me is breaking my heart.
  5. I have self-respect. That’s why I know the way you treat me isn’t real love. I respect myself far too much to continue to let you take me for granted. Maybe you thought you could treat me like crap and if I really loved you, I’d just take it, but I want a man who knows how to love me back. At the end of the day, I refuse to go unappreciated. I respect myself and that’s why I’m done putting up with disrespect from you.
  6. This relationship is starting to feel like a waste of time. If you really loved me, you’d take us seriously. You still treat me like we’re in a casual relationship, though. I keep thinking that we’re headed for a real future, but you make me feel like we’re standing still. I don’t want to be stuck in a relationship that’s going nowhere. All I want is for you to love me the way I deserve but what you really want is to have your cake and eat it too. All this time I thought our relationship was moving forward, but really you’re just trying to hold me back.
  7. If you loved me, you’d love me the way I deserve. It’s time for you to take a hard look at yourself because if this is the way you treat someone who has done nothing but love you then there’s something seriously wrong with you. I cared about you and in return, you tried to see just how much BS you could get away with. I deserve a guy who’s ready for real commitment, not a guy who still wants to play mind games.
  8. You’re a burden in my life. A man who loves me is supposed to make my life better, but you just make everything worse. You should be a source of relief in my life, but being with you is nothing but stress. You’re supposed to be a man but you act like a child. You sneak around like a teenager trying to get away with treating me like crap. You can say you love me, but I think you’re too immature to even know what love is.
  9. You treat me like I’m stupid. I’m not blind to the things you do behind my back. You’re not getting away with anything even though you think you’re getting away with murder. You think I’m just a fool you can manipulate, but manipulation has no part in love. I’m a smart and amazing girl, but you’re too busy being a bad boyfriend to even realize that. You don’t really know me, and you can’t love a stranger.
  10. You don’t care about my happiness. I think it’s pretty obvious that I’m unhappy in this relationship, but you couldn’t seem to care less. The only person you really care about here is yourself. You never care about what I want and need or how I feel. It’s always about you. I made your happiness a priority but you never even took mine into consideration. So at the end of the day, how can you look me in the eye and tell me you love me when your actions say otherwise?
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.