If We Can’t Crack Up Together, I’m Not Even Going To Try To Force A Relationship

A sense of humor is a necessary trait for most people when they find themselves searching for the perfect partner, and for good reason: it means so much more than just being able to laugh at the same sitcoms together. This is why I absolutely have to date a guy who makes me crack up as often as possible:

  1. Laughter signals compatibility. The guy I date shouldn’t just be funny — he should laugh at the same things I do. This is a huge sign that we’re on the same page and see situations in the same way. If we don’t have the same sense of humor, it just feels like something’s off.
  2. It’s a sign of intelligence. If a guy can be funny in a witty way, that’s a sign that he’ll be mentally stimulating and challenging. And who doesn’t think an intelligent guy is super sexy?
  3. I look on the light side and want a partner who does the same. I have a tendency to make jokes in the darkest times and try to find something to laugh about. If the guy I’m dating doesn’t get the relief I find in doing this, it can make things really awkward. We’ll be on totally different pages during stressful times, which can pull us apart instead of bring us closer together.
  4. It reveals his personality. What a guy laughs about and how he makes me laugh says loads about him. As Plato said, “You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.” Laughing together is a great way to learn more about each other and see how we click.
  5. I want a guy who can laugh at himself. A guy who’s too serious when it comes to himself is not the kind of guy I want in my life. He’s going to take offense easily and probably be way too full of himself. Ugh, no thanks. On the other hand, if a guy can laugh at himself, make fun of his mistakes, and not let things get to him, he’s refreshing and fun to be around.
  6. Laughter is sexy. A gorgeous smile and laugh can make someone attractive. A study published in Evolutionary Psychology Journal found that when people meet and laugh together, their attraction to each other is boosted. I know I can’t resist a sexy laugh. Plus, if a guy laughs a lot, as he ages he’ll have wrinkles in all the right places. It shows a life well lived.
  7. It’s relaxing. Nothing takes my guard down more than being around someone who makes me laugh. Laughter also decreases stress, and come on — stress is the last thing I want to feel when I’m around my partner. I’ve been around people who don’t laugh often, and it’s just such a tense, uptight atmosphere. I don’t want that in my relationship.
  8. It’s a handy tool to diffuse conflicts. Being able to see the humor in the middle of a hectic fight is a great way to chill and get rid of the horrible bitter taste that arguing can leave behind. Make-up sex is great, but make-up laughter can be even better to make my partner and me feel close again.
  9. It’s healthy. Laughter has been associated with decreasing blood pressure and boosting endorphins. I want to feel healthy and happy in a relationship, so a guy who can make me laugh when I least expect it is therefore good for my health.
  10. It makes us bond. If we can laugh together, it allows us to be silly and find pleasure in the mundane. What better way to feel closer to each other than that? We really don’t need big events and activities to make us bond — just sharing a quick laugh is all we need.
  11. Laughter in the bedroom increases intimacy. Being with a partner who can make me laugh in the bedroom, like when a sexual position just isn’t working out or there’s an embarrassing noise, is awesome. It removes inhibitions and creates an intimate and comfortable mood. The funny bone is an erogenous zone in my book.
  12. I want a positive guy. The guy who’s the life of the party has a special talent: he not only makes people laugh, but he makes anything fun. Whether I’m stuck with him on the side of the road with a flat tire or we’re exploring a new city, his humor will reveal itself to be zest for life. He’s great to be around no matter the situation.
  13. We’ll get the last laugh. So many things will fade, such as a six pack and handsome looks. But laughter is something that we can enjoy together all through our lives. Much like good communication, laughter is what will keep us strong and positive. Couples who laugh together stay together!
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.