I Can’t Deal With Boring Guys—I Want One I Can Talk To All Night

Falling in love isn’t just about first kisses, butterflies, and a man that makes me grin from ear to ear. All that stuff is great, but what it really comes down to is that I want a man who keeps me entertained. If he’s the right guy for me, we’ll be able to stay up all night talking and never get bored.

  1. I want to know that he can carry on a conversation. I’ve dated way too many guys that expected me to be responsible for the majority of the conversation. I get it—women typically talk more than guys, but that doesn’t mean I want to sit there just listening to the sound of my own voice. I want a guy who not only responds but can also bring up topics and ask questions of his own. I don’t care if he’s is shy and closed off to the rest of the world but I want him to at least be open and vulnerable when it comes to me.
  2. Having someone I can say anything to means everything to me. I want to be able to share every aspect of my life with him. My thoughts, opinions, goals, fears, secrets, and everything in between should interest him. I want a boyfriend I can say anything to and be able to trust that he’ll love me anyway. No matter what, I just want someone who knows me better than anyone else in the world.
  3. I want to be able to have fun just being together. I don’t want us to have to be doing something to have a good time. Just hanging out is enough for me. We should be able to simply enjoy each other’s company without needing to go on expensive dates or always be active. I want a guy I can just chill with—talk, play cards, watch TV, etc. Any kind of one-on-one time is precious to me.
  4. I need a guy I won’t get sick of. I’m not a people person. I prefer dogs to humans and sometimes I don’t prefer humans at all, so I need someone who is one of the very rare exceptions to my antisocial tendencies. I need a man who fits into my life like a puzzle piece because my ultimate goal is to find the man I want to marry, and that means I need to be able to not only handle but actually enjoy seeing him every damn day.
  5. I want an emotional connection. That comes from getting to know someone’s heart inside and out. I want to know his every thought and every idea. I want him to always be able to share his honest opinion with me. Essentially I want to learn if deep down we see the world the same way and can share this life together or if we’re too different and headed down separate paths.
  6. I don’t want to ever get bored together. Couples who are wrong for each other frankly get sick of each other. It’s not just the need for alone time, which I think is necessary for any relationship. It’s that they’re actually bored with each other. They want space because they’re tired of the same old boring relationship. I want to always have a concrete interest in my partner because in my mind, love can be a lot of things, but it should never be boring.
  7. I want a relationship filled with long conversations and tons of laughter. I want a guy that I can spend the rest of my life having good conversation with. Looks fade, faces grow wrinkled, age spots appear out of nowhere, but I don’t care about any of that as long as we still have things to talk about and still have a relationship full of fun. For me, relationships depend on being able to just enjoy talking to each other.
  8. I want the type of love where we actually miss each other. I envy the people who can’t wait to go home to their partner after a long day at work. I’m so jealous of the couples that miss each other whenever one of them goes on a business trip even if it’s just for a few days. I want to have the type of relationship where we cherish every moment we have together because at the end of the day we just love spending time with one another.
  9. I want to know that he enjoys my mind as much as my body. I don’t want to be just a girl he hooks up with. I’m more than just a pretty face or a way to get himself off. Don’t get me wrong, sex is important too—it’s just not as important to me as everything else. I want to be appreciated for everything I am, not just the way I am in bed.
  10. I want the man I end up with to be my very best friend. What I really want is a relationship that’s built on friendship. I want a man I can actually be myself with. I don’t want to constantly have to think before I speak which is proper etiquette in almost every other situation. With the man I’m giving my heart to, I want to be able to be unfiltered with no worries because our relationship is strong enough to handle my truth.
  11. At the end of the day, I want a man who’s better than my dreams. Saying I love sleep is a total understatement, so if I actually want to stay up with a guy all night just talking, that means I’m willing to forgo one of my favorite parts of life. When a man is actually better than my dreams, then I’ll know I’ve met the one, because this cynical girl has always preferred the subconscious to reality.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.