Falling in love isn’t just about first kisses, butterflies, and a man that makes me grin from ear to ear. All that stuff is great, but what it really comes down to is that I want a man who keeps me entertained. If he’s the right guy for me, we’ll be able to stay up all night talking and never get bored.
- I want to know that he can carry on a conversation. I’ve dated way too many guys that expected me to be responsible for the majority of the conversation. I get it—women typically talk more than guys, but that doesn’t mean I want to sit there just listening to the sound of my own voice. I want a guy who not only responds but can also bring up topics and ask questions of his own. I don’t care if he’s is shy and closed off to the rest of the world but I want him to at least be open and vulnerable when it comes to me.
- Having someone I can say anything to means everything to me. I want to be able to share every aspect of my life with him. My thoughts, opinions, goals, fears, secrets, and everything in between should interest him. I want a boyfriend I can say anything to and be able to trust that he’ll love me anyway. No matter what, I just want someone who knows me better than anyone else in the world.
- I want to be able to have fun just being together. I don’t want us to have to be doing something to have a good time. Just hanging out is enough for me. We should be able to simply enjoy each other’s company without needing to go on expensive dates or always be active. I want a guy I can just chill with—talk, play cards, watch TV, etc. Any kind of one-on-one time is precious to me.
- I need a guy I won’t get sick of. I’m not a people person. I prefer dogs to humans and sometimes I don’t prefer humans at all, so I need someone who is one of the very rare exceptions to my antisocial tendencies. I need a man who fits into my life like a puzzle piece because my ultimate goal is to find the man I want to marry, and that means I need to be able to not only handle but actually enjoy seeing him every damn day.
- I want an emotional connection. That comes from getting to know someone’s heart inside and out. I want to know his every thought and every idea. I want him to always be able to share his honest opinion with me. Essentially I want to learn if deep down we see the world the same way and can share this life together or if we’re too different and headed down separate paths.
- I don’t want to ever get bored together. Couples who are wrong for each other frankly get sick of each other. It’s not just the need for alone time, which I think is necessary for any relationship. It’s that they’re actually bored with each other. They want space because they’re tired of the same old boring relationship. I want to always have a concrete interest in my partner because in my mind, love can be a lot of things, but it should never be boring.
- I want a relationship filled with long conversations and tons of laughter. I want a guy that I can spend the rest of my life having good conversation with. Looks fade, faces grow wrinkled, age spots appear out of nowhere, but I don’t care about any of that as long as we still have things to talk about and still have a relationship full of fun. For me, relationships depend on being able to just enjoy talking to each other.
- I want the type of love where we actually miss each other. I envy the people who can’t wait to go home to their partner after a long day at work. I’m so jealous of the couples that miss each other whenever one of them goes on a business trip even if it’s just for a few days. I want to have the type of relationship where we cherish every moment we have together because at the end of the day we just love spending time with one another.
- I want to know that he enjoys my mind as much as my body. I don’t want to be just a girl he hooks up with. I’m more than just a pretty face or a way to get himself off. Don’t get me wrong, sex is important too—it’s just not as important to me as everything else. I want to be appreciated for everything I am, not just the way I am in bed.
- I want the man I end up with to be my very best friend. What I really want is a relationship that’s built on friendship. I want a man I can actually be myself with. I don’t want to constantly have to think before I speak which is proper etiquette in almost every other situation. With the man I’m giving my heart to, I want to be able to be unfiltered with no worries because our relationship is strong enough to handle my truth.
- At the end of the day, I want a man who’s better than my dreams. Saying I love sleep is a total understatement, so if I actually want to stay up with a guy all night just talking, that means I’m willing to forgo one of my favorite parts of life. When a man is actually better than my dreams, then I’ll know I’ve met the one, because this cynical girl has always preferred the subconscious to reality.
