If He Can’t Handle When You Do These 10 Things, He Doesn’t Deserve You At All

You’ve probably heard the phrase: “If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” Well, that’s the truth. A healthy relationship has its ups and downs. If he can’t handle it when you do the following things, he doesn’t deserve you at all:

  1. Claim that you’re “fine.” Men get frustrated when you won’t tell them what’s bothering you, even though you’re clearly pissed at them. Of course, if he really loves you, he’ll rack his brain to figure out what he did wrong. Even if he can’t figure it out, he’ll still find a way to work things out with you.
  2. Cry over something silly. We’ve all bawled our eyes out over something ridiculous. Even if your man doesn’t understand why you’re crying, or thinks you’re getting emotional over something stupid, he should still be there for you. He doesn’t need to understand your pain in order to make you feel better.
  3. Nag him. If he doesn’t want you to nag him about doing the dishes, then he should suck it up and do the dishes. Of course, he probably won’t see it that way, which is why he’s bound to get annoyed by your nagging. But if he loves you, he’ll put up with it.
  4. Turn down sex. Some men turn into whiny children when they don’t get what they want. If your man can’t take it when you turn down sex, he’s too immature for you. A real man would respect your opinion, and then go to the bathroom to take care of the deed himself.
  5. Take selfies. He should be happy when you try to take a perfect selfie with him. After all, it means that you want to show him off on Instagram. If he really loves you, he can handle the occasional photo shoot.
  6. Spend hours getting ready. He shouldn’t freak out when you’re in the bathroom for fifteen minutes instead of five. It’s common knowledge that it takes a woman a while to get ready. If he wants you to look your best, he needs to be patient.
  7. Burp. You’re a human. You have the same bodily functions as he does. He shouldn’t be surprised by a burp or two.
  8. Leave hair in the drain. Sure, you leave hair in the drain and litter the bathroom counters with makeup products, but he occasionally leaves the toilet seat up. You both have your flaws. If you want to last, he needs to learn to accept them.
  9. Make plans for him. When your friend invites you two to a party, your man won’t be happy if you agree to go without asking him first. Of course, you two are a team. If you’re going to stay together, you’re a packaged deal. Going to your friend’s party comes with the territory.
  10. Get your period. You can get pretty moody around your period. You might yell at him for no reason, or beg him to go out to buy your tampons for you. Either way, if he wants to be with you, he should be willing to deal with your period persona.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.